Contest: Who Should Make Big Decisions — Mom or Dad?
Every family faces moments when big decisions must be made maybe about money, the children’s future, or where to live. And this often brings one big question: who should make those big decisions :Mom or Dad?
For me, I strongly believe that both parents should make those decisions together. Because when love and unity lead, families stay strong and peaceful.
Who should make the big decisions?
I believe that both Mom and Dad should make the big decisions in a family. God joined them both for a reason to complete and support each other, not to compete.
When both partners share ideas and listen to each other, they see things more clearly. One may notice what the other misses, and that’s how balance and wisdom come in.
Why do I choose both? (Reason)
I learned this from my own parents. When my dad lost his job, he wanted us to move back to the village. My mom believed we could still survive in the city if we managed carefully.
Instead of arguing, they sat down, talked, prayed, and finally agreed to stay. Months later, my dad got a better job and our lives changed for the better. That taught me that when both parents decide together, things work out better.
If Dad had decided alone, we might have missed that blessing. That’s why I believe both parents should take part one brings logic, the other brings emotion, and both together bring wisdom.
Should big decisions be left to one person?
No. When big decisions are left to one person, it can lead to mistakes. Have you ever wondered why some single mothers or fathers sometimes struggle to raise a child properly?
It’s not because they don’t care, it’s because they carry all the pressure alone. There’s no one to say, “Wait, let’s think again.” Sometimes emotions or stress can lead to poor choices. But when both parents reason together, they balance each other, one thinks deeply while the other feels deeply. Together, they make better decisions.
Advice to Families:
My advice is simple, talk and listen to each other. Don’t let pride or anger lead. Marriage is not a battle of who’s the head, but a partnership built on love, patience, and understanding.
God joined them both so they can make the best decisions together not to argue over power or control. Families grow stronger when both voices matter because unity is more powerful than authority.
So, who should make the big decisions Mom or Dad?
My answer is clear: Both, together.
Because when love leads the way, even the hardest decisions become blessings for the whole family.
Special thanks to @megareigns and the Africans On Steem team for organizing this inspiring contest that reminds us of the beauty of teamwork in families.
I want to use this opportunity to Invite my friends to join this contest.
@tempestinyang, Mercybliss,@ukpono and @jemilatbuhari
I like your position on this topic. Marriage isn't a battle of headship. It's a partnership that grows with mutual understanding and respect.
However, I'd like to chip in something here.
From my experience, I'd assure you that a parent can raise responsible kids single-handedly. I have seen a woman raise her six children into responsible adults after becoming a widow in her 10th year of marriage. She had multiple births in between.
I have seen a father raise his three children into successful people after his wife left him 4 years after their marriage. In fact, she left the new born baby with him.
The parents in these stories never remarried. They raised their kids ALONE.
Raising great kids is about your PERSONALITY, not gender or circumstance. Anybody can raise their kids properly if they can:
Doesn't matter whether they are single, co-parenting or even acting as a guardian. In fact, some single parents and guardians happen to raise kids who are more empathetic and trustworthy. They make solid decisions that impact their lives positively as well. If I keep citing more scenarios and facts, this comment might become longer than a thesis.
I have enjoyed your entry. It's succinct and quite engaging. Thank you for the invite.
Why are you even up now? You should be having your beauty sleep, my dear Queen.
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Thank you so much dear.
There are single parents that raise a wonderful kids, yes agreed but 10/100
The challenges in raising a kid is not a bread bite.
I pray God will give us strength .
My grandparents weren't raised by single parent. My parents weren't raised by single parent. I will never raise a child as a single parent. God wasn't a fool when he designed family the way he did. Anything that will make us become single parent untimely should fall down and die in Jesus name.
I want to enjoy the union of a complete family like all my ancestors.
Thanks. My opinion though.
Your choice is valid.
And God was wise to give each of us a family. However, we need to remember that nobody prays to become a single parent. No child prays to lose their parent early. We can't shame those it happens to. We can't tell them that their lives are imperfect because that's not "God's plan". That would defy all logic. You get?
That's why I celebrate people who make lemonades out of the lemons life throws at them.
Their story is a story of resilience and courage. They built even when it seemed impossible.
They are the real MVPs.
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Well I'm not here to debate with you. Just stay tuned. I will drop my views too. I hope you will painstakingly go through it.
Of course you will.
Sure, I'd read it.
Every opinion counts.
Yes people that grew up by themselves without parents or maybe their dad or mom left them early due to death or any circumstances and despite that they become a better person they are the heroes, they should be celebrated because it's not an easy thing . Nobody to tell them what you are doing is wrong or what you are doing is right, nobody to encourage them, nobody to push them forward in life, nobody to tell them this will be good for you or not, nobody will encourage their decision, nobody will advise them like it's just man alone. The possibility of them being irresponsible is high but people that has determination in this circumstances become a better person.
Spot on!
Amen
Your submission is very detailed. Women bring emotions and men brings logic, these two joined together produces wisdom, this I have learnt from you today and I have seen the need for team work in families.