Who Should Make Big Decisions – My Story of Father and Family

When I was a child, I would often see my father sitting quietly in the verandah of the house, with a look of worry at the corner of his eyes. At that time I really did not understand, but now I understand how big is the responsibility of running a family, how much one has to think about everything, planning for the future, our education, arranging the land, all the big decisions were on their shoulders, this burden always falls on extraordinary fathers. I observed that he never took hasty decisions; Instead, he would talk quietly to my mother at night, but he would make the final decisions.

My father used to say, “A decision does not mean dominating anyone, but the ability to understand the good of everyone.” That is why I think that a strong, patient and experienced person should take the big decisions in the family. In our family, that person was my father, Shahabuddin.

But it is also true that my mother always stood by my father. My mother would often give advice, but my father would make the decisions. Our village house, buying land, my education expenses, even my younger brother’s admission—nothing was done without my father’s permission. But he never imposed any decision on me or my mother. Instead, he would listen to our opinions, and then quietly think about it.

[Generate by Gemini](A humble village evening scene in Sonabaria, Satkhira, Bangladesh. Mamun, a young Bangladeshi man, is sitting on a wooden bench in the courtyard of his tin-roofed house, talking respectfully with his father, Shahabuddin. The father is sitting on a traditional bamboo chair (mora), slightly leaning forward, explaining something serious and important. Mamun is listening with full respect, slightly bent forward, showing obedience and responsibility.

A soft golden sunset light, calm atmosphere, a lantern hanging near the door, a clay stove in the background with light smoke, mother making tea in the yard, younger siblings quietly standing or watching from a distance. Surroundings include mud walls, earthen floor, pumpkin plants, hand-pump, and traditional rural elements. Expression: emotional, family bonding, trust, decision-making moment between father and son.

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I never thought that just my father making decisions meant that others were unnecessary. Rather, I learned—even if one person makes a decision, there is a lot of love, advice and trust behind it.

If someone asks me today— “Who will make the big decisions in the family? I will firmly say, the one who knows how to take responsibility, thinks with a cool head, and puts the family first— like my father Shahabuddin did.

In a family-centered society like Bangladesh, a decision does not mean just yes or no, it means sweaty labor, the silent support of the mother, and the silent sacrifice of the father.

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