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You all are very welcome to my post. I hope you all are healthy and safe. Today I am participating in this beautiful competition. The topic of this competition is very interesting. I am happy to participate in this today. I would like to thank @megareigns for organizing this competition. Without wasting much time let's start writing the competition with the questions asked in this competition.

• Who do you think should always make the big decisions in the family, Dad or Mom?

Family is the most important basis of life. This is where we most deeply understand the meaning of love, cooperation, understanding and responsibility. But when it comes to taking any big decision in life – like children's education, changing house, financial investment, or any important decision regarding a relative, the question often arises that who should take such big decisions in the family, father or mother? This question arises not only in one family, but in almost every house at some time or the other. Many times the father is considered the head of the family. So in some homes the mother becomes the real guide. But should only one person really make decisions? Let us think deeply on this topic.

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According to me, major decisions of the family should not be in the hands of any one person, rather these decisions should be taken by both father and mother together. Family is like a tree. Father is like its roots which give stability, and mother is like its branches and leaves which make life green. If there are only roots and no leaves, the tree will wither, and if there are only leaves but the roots are weak, the tree will not survive. Similarly, if only the father takes the decisions, there may be more rigidity and logic in it, and if only the mother takes the decisions, there may be more emotional side. But when both think together, the decision is balanced, thoughtful and in the interest of all.

• What is Your reason for choosing either?

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If I am asked to choose between these two, I would choose mother. Mother is the one who deeply feels the emotions of every member of the family.She knows who will feel how in which situation. While father thinks in terms of practicality and responsibility of life, mother thinks from the heart. She gives priority to love, sensitivity and family unity in every decision. A mother is someone who adapts to every role – wife, mother, daughter-in-law and daughter simultaneously. His experience is related to every aspect of life. Therefore, when a major decision has to be taken, every corner of the family is reflected in the mother's opinion. Be it children, husband or elderly parents.

• Do you think big decisions should be left for only one person to make?

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No,this is not appropriate at all. Leaving major decisions to just one person in any family can prove to be a one-sided approach. A family is not a company where one person is the “boss” and the rest are employees. A family is like a team where every member has importance. If major decisions are always taken by the father, then the feelings of others may be ignored. At the same time, if the burden of decisions rests only on the mother, then the mental and emotional pressure on her may increase. Therefore, the best way is for both the husband and wife to sit together and think, and then take joint decisions. Children's upbringing, education, financial plans, relations with relatives. These are all subjects in which both viewpoints are necessary. If both opinions are taken, the decision is not only better but also sustainable.

• What is your advise to families going through this phase on deciding who should make big decisions?

Families who are going through the situation of Who should take the big decisions? they should first give importance to communication and understanding. Often fights do not happen because opinions differ,but because opinions are not heard.Before taking a decision, husband and wife should express their opinions openly.Sometimes a big solution is hidden even in small things. If both of you have different opinions, then instead of quarreling, try to understand the reason. It is not wrong to have disagreements, but it is important to respect each other.It is becoming a good trend in modern families that children can also give their opinion. Sometimes even small things can make a big difference. When a decision is taken together no matter what the outcome is, family unity is maintained.

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Father is like the backbone of the family.They handle the burden of responsibilities.Bring economic stability and set direction for the future.His experience and vision give strength to decisions.Therefore, along with mother, the role of father is also equally important. Father is sometimes quiet and speaks less. But his thinking is practical.If decisions are taken only on emotions, they cannot remain sustainable in the long run. Therefore from the father's point of view, there is reality and stability in the decisions.

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Mother is the soul of the family.She takes care of every little thing in the house.She knows who is happy, who is sad, who will be affected by what.A mother's judgment has sensitivity and emotional depth. She wants all the family members to live together, smile and understand each others feelings. This ability of hers makes her an excellent decision maker. When mothers vision matches fathers vision, a beautiful balance of understanding and stability is created in the family.

In this beautiful contest I would like to invite @ahsansharif @mohammadfaisal @sualeha @saintkelvin17

"Contest: Who Should Make Big Decisions- Mom Or Dad?".