Contest: Who Should Make Big Decisions- Mom Or Dad?

In my opinion, major family decisions shouldn't be made solely by one party, the father or the mother.

Both have equally important and complementary roles in determining the direction of family life. However, in certain situations, who makes major decisions can depend on the area in which one party is more experienced. As an illustration, when the matter is family finance, the father, as the more experienced parent, can take the lead, but still with the mother's input approval. On the other hand, when the issue is related to children’s education or house chores, the mother can take the lead with the father’s backing.

The reason I choose this perspective is because families are about working together, not competing. Yet if one person alone were to hold all the strings for the big decisions, the family equilibrium could be upset. The foundation of a good family system is communication, trust, and consideration of what each person thinks and feels. From the sense that major decisions are made jointly, all members feel that they count and participate. It also increases the sense of collective accountability for the impact of decision-making.

In my opinion it’s foolish to sole responsibility for a big decision to one individual. In a home, because every decision you make affects the entire household. Discussing things as we all go along, reduces the chances of any one of us making a wrong step, because we all have different views and concerns. Disagreements are not always bad; they can also mature and make decisions more wise.

So my advice to families who pander around deciding who should be making big decisions is always communicative and listen to one another. Don’t allow your ego or the necessity of you being right all the time hinder the process of making a decision. Make it a practice to consult with one other on all matters of importance that need resolution, and you foster respect between all of you. Keep in mind that the point of decision-making isn’t to decide who wins and who loses, but how the family can stay united and move forward to a better future as a family.

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