My death in death care - the conclusion!
After starting as a commissioned sales person and learning how to do every job through each position that I held in the company I found out that the truth can take you from Director to Unemployed in no time. However, I lived life and took my skills to another career that didn't pan out so well and went into seclusion, hiding from everyone. I would download hours worth of content to keep my mind busy while I cleaned businesses alone at night.
Then the call came a return back to cemetery industry and now the opportunity to take an open position with the most prestigious in the industry. A proud moment in my death care career! The position wasn't much, the Receptionist and the pay almost equal to what I was making with a promise of an increase if I proved myself worthy in the first 90 days of my employment, a bonus check in December, and a yearly increase along with everyone else in January... So check - October, December, January - Got it! Not a bad deal!!!
So my employment begins...
My first day I was taken around and introduced to everyone. They were so warm and welcoming, friendly and offering assistance in anyway I needed to get started. Behind my back questioning why I want to work here with the experience that I have, but putting a smile on their face and wishing me well. My boss began giving me her opinion of everyone in the building, her employees safe from any attempt at saying they would do anything wrong.
Observation #1 - My Supervisor is Two Faced and talks about other people
Mental Note - Don't trust her!
The time continued on, I was given increasing work daily and assisting the sales department however I could, I was the Receptionist, that was part of my job. However, there was a noticeable difference in my boss' attitude towards me. Her morning bounce in the office with a cheerful smile on her face was now a mug barely audible grunt as she said Good Morning as snide as possible when she quickly rushed past.
Thought about insert a picture of her here, but that would be so wrong of me
I didn't understand, I was doing everything that she had given me to do. I was answering the phones on one ring as required, helping families at the front desk, assisting sales with how the calls are assigned and doing some reports for the General Manager.
October came and I get called into the General Manager's office for my 90 day review. The GM sitting at her desk loves the fact that I am assisting sales with calls and her with reports. She loves the work that I do and knows my experience because we worked previously for the same corporation and she too was given her termination papers after years of loyal service to the company. My boss seated beside, but behind her with an evil sense to the smile that she was producing. They went over all of the basics and how great I was doing and of course the things that I need to improve on. Anyone that has been in management knows you can't tell someone they are perfect, because then they won't look to improve, but I had notices a pattern of things I "need to improve" where tasks that my boss gave me compliments on previous to this discussion. A thank you and you are now a legit full time employee, but no mention of the promised increase.
Now remembering Observation #1, I looked directly at my boss and said thank you and proceeded back to my desk to go back to work. At lunchtime, the Human Resources Representative passed me on her way out to lunch and stop to tell me that if I ever need to talk I could come to her anytime. It was like she was reading my mind and that she could sense that there was something wrong. I thanked her and let her continue on with her lunch. However, after lunch I walked into the GM's office where the HR Rep was and closed the door and told them about the promise of the increase that I was told about during my interview. Neither of them seemed surprised at the fact that something like that might have been said, but informed me that they don't do 90 day increases. However, in this case they would make and exception as long as it was kept between the three of us and not discussed with my Supervisor - DEAL!!
Observation #2 - My boss is Shady
Mental note - This is a business only relationship, no further details, totally not someone to trust EVER!
The staff consisted of ME, the receptionist!
the down to Earth Burial Coordinator, but best friend of the boss. She has been employed there for almost 30 years after my boss picked her up from the grocery store down the street, where they meet because she was the cashier.
The contract processor, a small little Roman Catholic woman with a one track mind that derails often by the slightest sound. She has been employed there also for almost 30 years, but doesn't know how to use any Microsoft products. I created billing coupons on an Excel spreadsheet that she would return to me to change a digit, because she didn't know how to make changes. I've never seem anything like it!!!
The Memorial Clerk and Accounts Payable, is as slow as a Sloth and celebrated 32 years old being there this month. Still doesn't understand how to do most things and harasses the Representatives of our manufacturers to death, but it's okay "That's just how she is!" When I asked why she was calling back customers that were offering to make immediate payments I was just told that "they didn't know it was happening" and I never brought it up again. One of my jobs was double checking her work for spelling and emblem errors, this is what it was like doing that
Sitting in the administration area is also the Media / Graphics employee, a really nice young girl with a lot of phobias and a Pet Loss Specialist that doesn't know anything about the job that she "specializes" in and has be shown how to write the contract while she "steps out for a moment" on the customer. It's actually pretty pathetic the things that I witnessed.
In January I was allowed to take my "First" burial call in that happened to come from the owner's son, who is a local funeral director. The call went great, not like it's the first time that we have had this conversation, I've done this at many other places in the past. Checked the times, verified the mausoleum would be clear before the next service. All well and good and done. A coworker already pulled the file and said that she would order the casket. I asked to see the file, because I'm used to working with hard copies of paperwork, not digital print outs and asked the Memorial Clerk "Do I write on this line to release the marker from storage?" She took the paperwork and had to recheck everything that I had done and then pointed to the service that was an hour later in the mausoleum. She said "Services in the chapel are scheduled an hour apart!!" I replied, "They are, this one is at 10 and will be at the site at 10:45 and that one is scheduled to arrive at 11... 10 to 11 is an hour?" She said that she was going to call the Funeral Director and may have to change the time and then I probably said the worst thing.... "Do you know that this isn't my first rodeo with taking a burial call."
Let the hate begin!!!
Let that simmer for the weekend and Monday morning walk into work. Noticeably early my boss has the two that were in the office with me on lockdown in her office discussing the events of Friday. At that time the HR Rep and the GM were standing in front of my office and I informed them that she had them in their getting their story, but not hearing mine. The morning went on, the morning sales meeting was over and my boss steps in my area with her famous words "I'M CONFUSED! We schedule services an hour apart at the Chapel" and not to incite further argument or start another war, with my head down I simply said "Okay" while continuing to delete my email. She asked me to repeat what I said and I lifted my head a couple inches to repeat the word "Okay." In an instant she became angry, threw the appointment sheet down on the desk and demanded that I see her in her office, RIGHT NOW!
Shaking my head, because I knew that it was coming, I got up and watched my little boss do her angry stomp past all of her employee/friends to make it look good. She kicked the doorstop excepting the door to close, but remained open against the wall and ask I reached behind me trying to contain the smile as I reached to close it she abruptly says "close that door" so I close it and quietly say "I got it." I watched her round, short body pace back and forth like a mad woman as she told me that I wasn't going to use that kind of tone with her. I watched her pace, throw paperwork on her chair, slam her hand on her desk and I finally with a straight face asked "Are we done here?" Before the confusion that was in her eyes could leak out of her mouth I continued, "We both know what this was already predetermined to happen today after you sat with those two, but didn't get my version of the story, so since this that is going on was already planned to happen, I'm done with it." and a quietly walked back to my desk and continued on with my office day.
Observation #3 - Billy Bad Ass Syndrome
Mental Note - We have ourselves a control freak here
November came and we made National headlines for participating in an event, that thank God for the truth in alternative media the real story got out.
http://baltimorebeat.com/2017/12/11/grave-concerns-will-detective-suiters-death-bring-commissioner-davis/
I love independent research! During the Gray event I was down on North Avenue taking tours of where the police blocked those kids from getting on their buses to go home. I walked the alleys where I watched on video police throwing bricks at the people and I stood on the corner of Penn / North seeing that the neighborhood spray painted on the side of the CVS that the media was lying - they too were trying to tell people, but no one listened.
Now I have a police detective gunned down the night before he was supposed to testify against other officer that were caught robbing people in the street, admittedly killing the father of another officer during one of their failed robbery attempts. This crew actually made the Baltimore court system sound like a new season of The Wire playing out for everyone to listen.
I don't watch the tells-lies-in-vision, so my news source are real people, reporting real things and when it's a local story I will go see for myself before believing anyone. However, the interest in the story was a local news story sent to me in a text message showing me the face of the neighborhood elementary school bully
This has all came full circle and now I am at work and they are telling me when the funeral is going to be, but my research is telling me that his body is being cremated and won't even be released by the scheduled date.
Observation #4 - It may not be just the boss, maybe the whole place is shady
Mental note - Trust no one!
My life continued on - working one day in the office with no heat, working in the summer with the air on 50, NO day is ever a "good" day to take off. We had a historic wind storm come through and blow off the corner of the building. I took a picture of it while I was out evacuating my car from the parking lot and posted it on Facebook. On my way in a friend from Puerto Rico joked and I sarcastically replied "No they evacuated the cars from the parking lot, but not the people from the building - back to work now!" Laughed and went back to work hearing the roof lift up and slam back down with every heavy gust of wind.
My work was complete, my desk empty of task everyday before I left work, but one day I left my Facebook account signed in and the closing coworker decided to go through my page. She called the owner's daughter in and they proceeded to copy of select post from my page. Anyone that knows me can attest to the fact that I am sarcastic, fun loving, and directly honest. I am also single, completely unattached, and venting on the internet is therapy to someone who is lonely in life. The next day I was called into the GM's office for sit down with the GM, the owner and his daughter. He had in his hand a stack of my post and began reading them off - Why would I post "Getting F'n screamed at and I've been here 5 damn minutes" --- "Because it was true Sir." "Why would you share about the roof blowing off the building?" --- "Because it was true Sir." He continued "But, why would you?" to which I replied "Sir, I share breaking news with people on social media. I used it as it is intended to be used to be social with people on media. I also shared a story that the pavilion at a local venue fell during the storm, it's news that is happening not an insult to the business. We here sir had no control of the weather." He continued on to a few more meme shares that he accused me of posting to insult my boss when I in fact pointed to my feet and informed him "Sir, without these heels on I actually stand only 5' 2", that post is about myself and no one else." He then took a deep breathe and asked me what makes me angry at work and I replied "People taking your money, but not working. Your customers calling and not getting the service they deserve, but most of all the way that I am treated by my own boss." He then informed me that she would never be leaving and that I should look for work elsewhere.
The General Manager called me in and told me that I would be paid to go out and do interviews, I could look for jobs online when my work was done and to take my time. I did excellent work and if given the chance he will see that and change his mind. I was told to "Play the game" and do it "their" way, so I did.
Last Monday I went into work after taking my first two vacation days for my grandson's fifth birthday.
We were so happy on our 4 day weekend. His mother still not too proud of a parent after 5 years, I thought that it was my time to take care of that. So I woke up determined that I was going to type up the guardianship papers and file for temporary custody for allow so that she can get counseling or figure out what is best for this child.
Instead I walked in explained my plans to the HR Rep, who is also a Grandmother and completely understood where I was coming from, thought it was am exceptional idea. I caught the GM before she got busy for the day and tried to explain that I wanted to talk to her and my boss about taking a couple hours off to run down the street to the clerk's office to file for custody and she informed me that I would have plenty of time, because I was Laid off with no possibility of returning to work.
I was crushed - lied to again.... play the game, do it their way, it was all bullshit and they were going to get rid of me the entire time.
It was my death in the industry!
I walked down stairs and said goodbye to the HR Rep and a majority of the sales people. I walked to my desk and unplugged my heater, grab the box of my belongings from underneath and quietly walked out of the building without anyone knowing I was leaving, my work still sitting on the desk exactly as I had left it, in my car and gone - another person that used me and threw me away.
Half way down the street to the court house I realized I couldn't file for custody, because I didn't even have a job saying that I could support him, so my heart was completely crushed!!
So that ends my life in death care and leaves me to find a new adventure in life without the effects of work place politics. I can not handle getting mentally bullied for someone else's benefit.
Looking to start a new life with great opportunities and positive people.
There may have been many bad things that have happened in my life, but it will never keep me from being the Warrior that I am inside.
Peace and blessings - Live FEARLESS!
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