As someone who has really wanted a divorce since 2010, but couldn't manage it because we each need each other's income to meet all the bills, I believe it's better to get out of a relationship that has become unhealthy than to stay in one. I actually envy my cousin, who is getting divorced after only nine months of marriage (her husband ended up being an alcoholic, emotionally abusive cheater), because she is gaining her freedom. I'd love to have mine back, rather than live in this miserable relationship we have. Yet, we still can't figure out how to make it work. The marriage doesn't work anymore, but neither does a divorce. I can't tell you how many times over the past seven years we've both said we wanted to do it. We even got as far as the courthouse to file once, four years ago, and then didn't, because of finances. It's always the finances. This most recent time, he told me he wanted a divorce, and I told him I knew he'd change his mind because he always does, but he insisted he wanted one no matter what this time. He stuck to it for three days, then told me on Monday he would still like a divorce, but realized we still can't, because of finances, so we're stuck for the time being. As usual. Back to the same once happy, now miserable marriage we can't seem to escape. At least we manage to live on different sides of the house and avoid each other most of the time.