Story of a friend forever
Can someone try to influence the personality of another person, even trying to change the way you dress?
Yes, yes there is, this is Rosi's story, in her youth, she encountered that kind of persons...
I liked to dress in dark colors, which represented that inside me there was a constant struggle to come out on top. My own struggles of me against me. Dark colors were not my favorite colors, but as long as my brain was at war with myself, I could not change colors.
solitary
I lived full of fears, and low self-esteem, always thinking of others first and then what was truly important. I would try to observe the behavior of others to follow the highest bidder. I always tried to go unnoticed in the eyes of others in order to capture the most gestures that I could learn to use in my life. Dressing in black, brown, and gray was always my best option.
As I studied, I learned from it and from what I lived. I gained knowledge that allowed me to help me get out of bad thoughts more and more. I learned to discard ways of not growing, of self-destruction, and also to try to better myself.
I always told myself that ending a life takes courage. I had many negative thoughts in my mind but dying was not one of them. I didn't realize it when I started to grow up. When my mind started to evolve and think more about valuing myself. Eventually, I realized that life is perfect just the way it is, with the highs and the lows. With the bad situations and the good ones.
I learned alone, I distrusted everyone, as to tell them what was going on in my mind. They only saw a girl smiling, who didn't tell anything else.
Then I learned to value myself and to love myself. I keep learning, increasing, and strengthening my faith. I erased from my mind the negative thoughts to leave only the positive ones. I learned to leave aside those who belittled me and to accompany those who gave me value.
I began to love myself more than I love others. My self-esteem went up. I was no longer trampled on. I no longer allowed anyone else to do so. My dress colors now represent me, they are light as the sky, green as the sea, yellow and orange as the sun and I like combined colors.
I am an older adult. I love who I love, I share with everyone because I like to give what I have. I love myself very much and I don't need anyone to tell me what I'm worth, because I've already learned it. I live as I want and with those I love. Those I love and those who love me accompany me. Without pain in my soul, I detach myself from everything harmful that surrounds me.
I no longer care who tells me they love me, I only care who proves it to me. And I am with them for now and always.
Best friends
That's how I met Rosi when she was helpless and was carried like the wind by everyone and by the bad criteria of toxic people. I was with her all the time and I could see her growth. Now I feel proud to be by the side of a woman who learned to overcome herself and to value herself far away from the opinions of others. We are friends forever.
Welcome to Dream Steem! Everyone should have that one friend...
Yes, that would be great. It would be living in a wonderful world. Thanks for your support.
Muchos aprender a vivir de ese modo, y a algunos le cuesta darse cuenta que al final, lo importante es como nos valoramos a nosotros mismos. Pienso que en ese sentido, la validación de otros no es necesaria, al menos que sean importantes para nosotros, como por ejemplo un ser amado. Algunas amistades nos enseñan mucho, nos enseñan tanto y nos brindan tanto apoyo, que simplemente se ganan un puesto tan importante como si fueran parte de nuestras familias. Fue una agradable lectura. Me gustó mucho.
I am pleased by your words. I have often heard it said that we are born with family, but we choose our friends. They will be our family also through the years. Only the one who has friends knows how it feels to have them by our side and I am not referring to the companions we have but, to our family of friends or friend. Already having one friend is a great treasure.
What a powerful journey, Rosi.
From dressing in dark colors that mirrored your inner turmoil, to embracing the colors of the sky, sea, and sun — your transformation is not just external, but deeply spiritual.
You are living proof that healing begins from within, and that self-love is the most powerful armor. 💛
"I no longer care who tells me they love me, I only care who proves it." —
This line hit me deeply.
You are an inspiration to many of us who are still learning to choose ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your light.
As we go through life we learn that many people can tell us that they love us, but few and far between are the ones who truly show that when we need them we are important to them.
It seems unbelievable but the way we look externally has an influence on how we are internally.
Thank you very much.
This is a story with the kind of outcome that I always yearned for. We all need that one friend that would keep reminding us of our worth.
It is good to have a friend but in the selection process we always receive many disappointments. When you meet that unconditional friend, don't let go because that will be your friend forever.
Good friends are so rare as we grow older; we shall cherish them.
With the years and our events, we know who our true friends are. He who has a friend already has a great treasure.