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RE: NVC Workshop #3: IDENTIFYING NEEDS WHEN LISTENING AND SPEAKING
I have to confess I was a bit shut towards the NVC workshop because I don't consider violence to be inherently bad. However, reading this post and watching the videos I got a deeper understanding of what it's all about and how useful it could be to me in this moment of my life that I'm having a real hard time with my physical 3D social relations. Will try to become more conscious of needs while talking with others, might be a good point to begin healing in this area. Thanks!
$trdo!
glad u had a look! NVC is not well understood by most people because we've only ever been taught violent communication by our family and teachers for the most part..
NVC is all about what we should do, rather than what we should not do. ANger is an emotion, and is telling us something.. Expressing anger may well be needed at certain times.. but if we want to have something useful come out of a dialogue then NVC is the way to get your needs met and frustrations resolved.. for the rest, to me, being constantly angry about something is just venting.. and a signpost to an unmet need... but doesn't really solve anything to just be angry without being able to resolve it..
A great quote " Blame and judgement are tragic expression of our unmet needs.. "
If you are having a hard time with certain people, i reccomend a peek at the first workshop on listening / observation. There is a great exercise there, a simple one, and is the perfect way to start with someone who you are not seeing eye to eye with..
https://steempeak.com/ecotrain/@eco-alex/non-violent-communication-workshop-1-join-us
Will look into it, but I can tell you... my first conversation after reading this post showed immediate change. I was more open and also seeking out the needs that both the person I was talking to and I were trying to express. It was a very good experience :)