Why Anger Isn’t the First Emotion—But Often the Loudest One

Anger is one of those emotions in our life that definitely is very much powerful and can often be very much influential in every single situation that it is involved in very easily it can become something that can be the protector in situations and at the same time it can also become the destroyer of that situation as well which is why it becomes even important making sure that it is very much wisely used and always going to be used in such a manner that is going to be never be filled with any kind of regret within our own self.

It can be a very powerful tool to be making us stand out among whatever is happening in the wrong way along with the fact it can also become something that actually makes a situation even more damaging in a very unnecessary manner which is why I am it becomes something that we regret later on along with the fact that it is also something that is very much difficult to be controlling in many situations because it obviously over powers us in most of those situations.

And due to all of that there are a lot of mistakes that we commit while been angry and that is quite natural for us but at the same time it is something that can actually be justified as well at time but along with that it can also be misplaced in many situation which is something that is completely going to be decided by us and how we are expressing it in any single situation. There are a lot of such experiences in our life, where we became angry and it was completely justified, and there are also a lot of such situations when it was actually something that got misplaced.

There have been a lot of scientific studies by experts who have actually made this affect that anger is not ever going to be an emotion that is very much primarily felt by us because it is actually a result of some other strong emotion that we have felt which can actually be something that made us feel very much hurt or even scared of which actually made us frustrated in the end which comes out as our anger and that is when it becomes something that can be pretty much destructive in its nature but at the same time it can also be something that can actually be the best thing that can be done in that particular situation but all of that is going to be decided by how we are expressing it and the way we are controlling it as well.

There have been many such situations when I felt that been angry was completely justified and natural for me and one such situation happened with me in a college project that I was involved in which was actually quite important for us and it was a group project where many members were actually involved and everyone had a set roll to be playing but out of no wear one find day one of the members decided that he will not be able to be continuing with us and completed disappeared after that but just before the day of submission he again came back and wanted us to make him the part of the group again and it was something that was actually a very big problem for us because he left in a place when we were not even in a position to be getting someone else into our group which made us do that extra work and now that he has come back with such an audacity was something that made me very much angry.

I completely lashed out in that particular moment and it was really a very bad situation in an overall mom and because I felt very much angry in that situation and I was not able to even control myself and it was kind of a very big verbal fight between me and that person and everyone in our group was actually very much frustrated as well which was actually very much natural because of whatever that person did with us and it was something and made me feel that I didn't do anything wrong because it was completely justified for me to feel angry and frustrated because of the things that he did towards and the extra things that we have to do just because of what he did with us.

There are many such situations which definitely go along the same lines where everything was actually very much naturally felt by me and it was completely justified to be angry in those situations because if there are very much visible sign that someone is actually trying to do wrong with you it is obviously very natural to feel angry and doing things in that situation can definitely feel justified towards because of the things that we had to support just because of other people and similarly there can be a lot of other situations as well where we can definitely feel that way.

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However there are also many situations when it gets mis placed quite a lot and I do remember one such situation which happened with me where I was completely frustrated with the entire days work which I did and came back home in the evening itself where my younger sibling actually came to our house in that particular day and he was just playing with his toys and all and I came back home and I was already very frustrated because of the lot of things that actually happened that day in the office and he came up to me just to show a toy or something but later on I was not a very great mood and I just told him to go away and it was not in a very polite manner which I can say to be the least.

Later on all that stress which I had throughout the day was completely getting out in my own actions which was actually very much bad in terms of seeing it because everyone who was getting to suffer because of my mood was having nothing to do with that which is actually the fact and later on when a realise all of this it made me feel very sad and I try to make up for it but it was actually not something that was going to be making anything up because everything has already happened and I felt very much guilty about it.

These are the things that actually happened to us in our life as well where we are getting angry because of no reason as well and actually making people suffer who have nothing to do with it which is why it becomes something that is obviously not in our control but makes us regret because of whatever things that we do in such situations and all of this is something that you should be constantly trying to remind ourself which can be actually a very good reminder so that we don't get unnecessarily emotional in terms of our anger in situations when we are not supposed to be doing so.

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