I understand what you are doing and agree, in part.

Raised as a foster child myself during the 1960s and 1970s my experience in the homes was a good one. Given; my younger sister, younger brother and I were bounced around for a couple of years but were placed finally in a stable home with very loving foster parents. We were spoiled in so many ways and well taken care of by our foster parents who, to this day (I am 58), I refer to as: mommy and daddy.

My birth-father was a pedophile and violent drunk. My birth-mother suffered from a rare form of schizophrenia. It was for this reason that the State stepped into the situation and removed us from our birth-parents. My maternal grandparents had already taken custody of my two older sisters yet, were incapable of caring for all five of us siblings.

Children are not the property of their chromosomal donors, they are a gift from G-D. Anyone that would condone a child being sexually, emotionally, and physically abused (I am not talking about an ass-whooping, but breaking of bones) just because the perpetrators are the biological parents, is very misguided.

I was embarrassed about my biological family history for quite some time. These days I speak out on this topic. In life there are no black and white answers. Each situation must be looked at individually.

There are times when there is a need for intervention in a dysfunctional family. Believe me I know from personal experience. My birth-father is still alive and has never shown remorse or asked forgiveness for his actions. Unlike my other siblings, I have not spoken with him in over 40 years.

My parents were my foster parents. Mom and Dad Reynolds as well as Momi and Pappi Lopez, will always have my love and I will always honor their memory.

Signed,

A grateful foster child