Plato writes how Soctates describes, in Phaedrus, the world of all the souls - the gods, on the one hand perfect, and on the other those falling down to earth - pretty much as a circus maximus with a chariot race going on. A parade of chariots at least. The gods have a pair of calm and manageable horses (both white) and the mortals have one white docile horse but also one black horse pulling them down, out of the heavens, onto the earth. This is the well-known story of the Fall in Greek version.
All the souls have wings, but the mortal souls fall to earth like the reverse story of a butterfly, left to crawl the earth wingless. The process of initiation (learning lessons) is highly sped up by becoming a philosopher, and you should have a new set of wings and a pair of perfect horses within 3000 years. (Otherwise you are going round in circles for 10.000 years).
No free pass for the Platonists, may I note. Probably no easy front-row tickets,either, after all your work in tights and flowery dresses (sorry, projecting the elders my son is now hanging out with onto you; your terry-cloth might have been plain orange or mauve, maybe with a pale blue or umber stripe somewhere, as the seventies fashion went.).
Yes, was orange terry as a matter of fact :) A little orange and white stripped belt with gold ends that twisted into one another to form a butterfly!
Hanging out with the elders? I guess at least they'll discourage smoking :/
what a great song. Thanks, long not heard. Even if it was not for me, I took advantage :)
It is great, huh! A friend of mine sang for New Year's celebration at the theater downtown and she sounded amazing. It's been going through my head ever since :)
Glad you took advantage!
If only!! My whole hallway where the coats hang, my washing and the kid himselfs stink of smoke (and she is barred from my house). Only a matter of time till he's addicted through passive smoking.
Was wondering about where the smithonians stand on sex. Discouraging it would also be nice, too. I wonder what their policy is on abortion... I know I'm fast changing mine to a non-negotiable radical stance... (Can you imagine a girl who is so possessive and jealous - who forgets to take her meds - remembering to take the Pill consistently?...It was my first nightmarish vision back in July when I was convinced my son was telling the truth that she believed in no sex before marriage. May I now be proven to not have a previsionary bone in my body please.
Since July the deception has densified so darkly, their baptismal swimming pool would turn black if they dipped him into it (he attended a baptising and described it to me as a hilarious event, especially the white jumpsuits the pair in the water wore. I ended up reminding him to be more respectful regards his opinion and actually the best respect would be shown by not attending at all!!). Talking to walls these days is proving to be a comfort and great company compared to the uncarved block (or so they praise my child in his quaintly posed angelic moments) I have been speaking to for 20 years.
No on premarital sex, no on abortion, no on smoking/drinking, but as you know not everyone follows the rules. Hopefully, she's sticking to abstinence so you don't have to go through that, but sometimes the not doing it means a desire to get married as soon as possible :/
My most dreaded thoughts exactly...
But I guess use of Pill, is a small comfort then....
ARGHH.... no comfort at all.
Living with a stranger. I think tons of mothers end up like that.
But me too??? Ay, Luciferic I who did not want to end up like this.
What do you need to incapacitate your son? A court order? You mentioned something like that. If this seems to be the only sensible solution for you, you should go this way. You still couldn't stop him from impregnating a girl, but he probably wouldn't be responsible as a father, neither emotionally nor financially? Do I see it correctly that you are afraid that from now on you would not only have your son, but also additional responsibility for a grandchild and possibly a woman at your son's side, whom you did not ask for?
Would incapacitation mean at the same time that a diagnosis of mental disability must take place, that your son would have to live under supervision in an institution for the disabled? Where would he be looked after 24/7 and you would be freed from this difficult task? After all, an adult man cannot be guarded and patronized unless others confirm that he does not have the ability to take care of himself.
In the meantime, it seems, you have to live with this torn heart, which deeply desires freedom and on the other hand cannot simply let go of the burden of responsibility.
But as long as your son is considered legally capable and liable, he must stand or fail for his actions, whatever that means.
Can you take advice and help in your immediate surroundings? There will be people who offer that, won't there? It seems to me that you deal too much with yourself.