Friends are precious

My life revolves around my friends. In India I have a big family but everyone lives in different cities so it's not like we can meet regularly. Though we do try to meet once a year but sometimes I get to meet them once in 2 years. It's basically my friends who are around all the time and I spend most of my time with them, like weekend outings and gatherings. Even when I have a need of something they are the easiest to reach out, because they are in the same city.

In my 20s and 30s I did not have many friends, had just a few from my school days and they were all mostly living in other cities. I had one friend and I always spent most of my time with her, she is my best friend. We lived nearby and had easy access to each other. We worked in the same job, so even there we were together, we travelled together, shopped together, spent our weekends together. Our bonding was like family only, so she was there is all of my life events and I was in hers. Then she got married and moved to another country. Life completely changed after that. She was starting new in a different country all together and I had to start living without her presence. It was not easy for both of us, and more difficult for her. For a long time, I felt very angry with her to move to another country. I knew I was wrong but I just was not able to cope up without her. Life still had to move on. For almost 2 years I had completely closed down, I could not give her place to anyone. But then hubby would tell me, it was not about giving her place to someone by making new friends, because each one will have their own place.

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Slowly gradually I started mixing around with those people I already knew even when she was around and life got somewhere back to normal. But for those 2 years I became very miserable with no friends around me. It was not that they were not there, but I had shut down myself, because I felt that if I would become friends with other people, I would be betraying my friend. It was all wrong thinking. Even when she would call me and we would talk, she would say the same thing, that I had to move on.

Now I am a different person, I have quite a few friends. Living here in Muscat city for 10 years, just me and hubby, not having friends would have been miserable. They are there in good and bad times, always helpful and so do I reciprocate. It's not very easy for me to connect with someone, but when I do then it's a deep bonding. We do have a big social circle here in Muscat, but not everyone is a friend. Knowing people and socializing with them does not make all of them your friends. They are the few ones with who you can share anything and everything. My best friend is still my best friend, even though we are apart.

We all need friends, then no matter whoever we are. Life without friends feels very incomplete.

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