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RE: Is it Time to Burn @diabolika? - Whose Success/Life Advice She Will Take Here?
Another post of truth!
I was at a workshop where they said that giving advice reveals the person giving the advice. I volunteered to sit in the middle of a circle, relate a real problem I had then everybody in the circle give me their advice. And, all I was allowed to say was "thank you". You can probably guess what percentage of advice was worthwhile.
For you to only say 'thank you' was like a test and part of the workshop about giving advice?
Wow, I can imagine. These are people you don't know right? Can you imagine people here on Steemit giving us advice and don't know even know us or see us lol.
I am even careful now of not giving unsolicited advice to people I don't know because I made the same mistake in the past, it can sometimes do more harm. It is true that it reveals the person.
The workshop was about leadership and had a broad section of teenagers up to retirees from all walks of life. This particular section was about giving and receiving advice. Saying only "thank you" was remarkably easy: At that time I'd been in design a few years and we solicit and process advice all the time. Yeah, I knew only one or two of the people there out of about twenty something people there.
I'm careful about what I give advice and to who. Typically only topics I'm at least more knowledgeable than most about and typically only to people who might be receptive. Ultimately, it's up to the person receiving the advice to figure out what to do with the advice. And, that includes the possibility of ignoring advice completely.
Most internet randoms probably aren't going to 1) have a good basis to advice from 2) not know you well enough to advise. But, it's all engagement and maybe their advice was given with good intent rather than outright trolling.
That is an interesting leadership workshop, saying thank you and not accepting everything.
It is definitely up to us (receiving advice) because we should know what will work for us.
The person who is also telling her/her opinion and advice reveals a lot about himself/herself (insecurities, failures, who that person is, enviroment she/he comes from), because we are all talking/projecting our own realities to the person receiving the opinion/advice.
It takes one to know one I guess.