What do you think of the bipolar discussion between men and women about "money and love"?

With the coming of social development, it seems that people's living standards have improved, and it seems that they have become rich, but it seems that the poor are still poor, and the rich are still very rich. In the 1970s and 1980s, although the poor were poor and lived poorly, people in both rural and urban areas were not satisfied with food and clothing and extravagant enjoyment, but were full of spiritual thoughts. Men had wives, women would manage their homes, and married men and women were weaving. Life is noisy and noisy, but a lot of people grow old together. Who can say that this is not happy?

I was born in 1987. I grew up in the rural mountains, herding cattle, and farming for ten years. It can be said that although I was born in the 1980s, my life when I was a child was more like that of the 70s. . But this year, my parents are still together in their 60s. Even though my dad had a cerebral thrombosis 10 years ago, he couldn't talk, work, and all the family burdens lay on mom. In fact, I think my father is very lucky, because if it were in the current era, I guess my mother would have abandoned it a long time ago. Even Dad will bachelor. Saying these is not a digression, but I want to say that the long-term marriage does not necessarily have to be wealthy. At this time, a girl would say "poor couples are sad for poor couples." Yes, poverty will make people unable to eat good things and wear the world's famous brands. But poverty is not terrible. What's terrible is that people add the word "cheap" after poverty. This word has quite a deep meaning. It was originally a difference in the material enjoyment of the flesh, which was instantly connected to the mind. The poor are inferior, they are ashamed, they are despised, ridiculed, and even excluded.
　　 Girls often say, "You have money, no car, no savings, do I love you, are you?" Does the poor love who love you suffer with you? Yes, the author thinks that no woman wants to suffer. All want to enjoy material satisfaction and spiritual satisfaction. But one problem is often overlooked. There are two basic elements between what you want and what you can get. First you are worth it. The second partner is willing or not. Women are weak, but men are absolutely impossible and will not be willing to dereliction of duty to support all the pressures of family and marriage life. If you can't cook, don't bring children, don't want to work, don't know how to be empathetic emotionally, and don't bother to share joys and sorrows. May I ask why you can open your mouth for money and ask for it. It is indeed difficult for men without money to find a wife. But when a man is rich, do you think you will love a woman who shares the joys and sorrows with him, or a woman who does not give but only takes? At this time, some women will jump out and say, "I have given my youth, I have given my body" honey juice is ridiculous! Didn't men give their youth? Didn't the man give his body? You still show off in your circle of friends when men spend time to earn money to support their families. Still shopping and comparing.
　　 It's probably the easiest and cheapest thing for women in an "open society" today to give their body! Don't spray if you don't like it. If you don't believe me, ask a lot of women who are willing to give their bodies or are willing to work hard? Are you willing to cook with children or to accompany s? Do you pay a lot of things for your body? It's not big at all, but it's a bit tortuous. The twists and turns stem from the fact that the diamond king has not been found yet. The twists and turns are because the veil of reserve hasn't been opened yet.
　　 The manifestation of money and love. Women think that love is only when they are rich. Let me talk about this point first. The author disagrees. Being rich is only an element of improving material and spiritual enjoyment. Is there a hairy relationship with her mother's love? Women often say that you pet me. The more you pet me, the more I love you. The more you are willing to spend money on me, the more I will never leave you. The more you can prove that you love me... these routines are not uncommon. Petting you, spending money on you desperately, you love men when you are used to you. How about vice versa? Does it change in one second? Do you love people for this kind of woman? What you love is this kind of peaceful enjoyment. A man is willing to do everything for you. The only proof of loving you is the willingness to do everything. So what is the proof that you love someone?
　　 Let’s talk about men. For myself, I think the word love is a guise. It's something too illusory. Compared to love, I prefer the other three words: affection, affection, conscience
　　 Feelings: Men and women have enough time to get along, have a full understanding of each other, and experience countless things together. The habit of making peace together for a long time. Mutual is like glue and paint. The long-term friction between each other produces feelings. He makes two people get used to being together. I'll miss it when I'm separated, and I'll be uncomfortable. I feel unhappy with others. Those girls who have fallen in love as a happy audition will never understand what pure affection is.
　　Enai: It is estimated that many men and women now understand this term. In many times when wearing Lolita, calling themselves little princess, little cute, little fairy, not many people still remember the word love. It is estimated that they will not be able to experience the process of affection. The so-called love is love that comes first before grace. The so-called graciousness is the mutual support, care, and dedication between lovers, which ultimately touches each other a lot. Let the other person feel full of gratitude and full of happiness. Full of moving. This kind of touch directly makes each other form an agreement in their hearts, "You are kind to me and I will not let you down." This kind of touch and kindness is definitely not the flowers, gifts, and high-value luxuries of Valentine's Day for men and women. It's a kind of effort that you voluntarily hurt yourself, or is not easy to make. The value of this touching is immeasurable. It's like a woman who accompanies a man from scratch. Work hard together. Or maybe it was because a man gave up the betrothal to encourage him when he was not successful... Now there are a lot of rich people, and a lot of juniors. But I believe that every man will eventually remember a woman who touched him. When the love accumulates more, the husband and wife will have ever-increasing happiness and harmony. Finally stay together for a long time.
　　 Conscience: The reason why I said this last word is that it has little to do with marriage, love and happiness. Conscience is just constant within a person's heart. If you meet a person with no conscience. Even if the above two words have done it. Then there will be chaos and abandonment. To give a simple example, if you have moved a man, he will remember your good. If you become rich in the future, you will be rich. Some temptations tend to destroy the purity and loyalty of the marriage, and some men will go out to play and be bothered. Then feelings are the first line of defense at this time. He will remind the man that this woman has accompanied you through ups and downs. Affection is the second line of defense. He will remind a man that this woman has done countless things with you, and has tasted hardships for your family. If you fulfill the promise, you will lose family happiness and mutual trust. Conscience is the last line of defense. He will interrogate and torture the personality from the bottom of the human heart. In the last lesson, conscience is often the last straw. . .
　　 Feelings, affection, and conscience are indispensable. There used to be so many golden weddings, diamond weddings, and so many old people together. It depends on these three points. It's not much rich or rich. There is no excessive pampering. To be honest, many girls now ask for petting and treat themselves as princesses, but love is absurd. People are mutual, even if there are more men than women now. Demand and effort are always proportional.
　　 Now that the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, the main problem is that there is no emotional foundation, no love experience, and no conscience. Marriage and feelings are not forged, like fragile glass. Now people are crying that there is no sense of happiness, because happiness is spiritual. Not on the material level. Just like the delicacies of mountains and seas, you can eat them every day for a few days. But the kind of hysterical touch of affection will last until the end.
　　 Nowadays, more and more women give up pursuing pure love, but are accustomed to sit back and enjoy their achievements and pursue material security. Fancy using money to satisfy everything, as insurance for a lifetime. In fact, wealth and lack of money are actually the same in terms of happiness. Those women who carry famous-brand bags all day and shuttle through the streets and downtown, do you ask how happy he is? Worrying all day that I can’t hold a man’s heart when I’m old, worrying about her husband cheating all day, worrying about the mistress all day...Of course, the mistress is worse in the end. Because there is no basis for pure transactions. She is just a commodity. M. As more and more juniors squeeze in, this value will get lower and lower.
　　Is there love when there is money? It's just a cover for women.
　　 Is there no love if you are poor? Not necessarily.
　　 Today’s statement only represents me personally, don’t spray if you don’t like it! If you have any ideas, leave a message for discussion. By the way, are you "happy?"
　　 Finally, I wish you all the judges can find your sincere, long-lasting love, feeling, and a hundred years of harmony! ! !