The September contest #1 sduttaskitchen| Can a best friend become a good life partner?

Let's Just assume or just imagine that you’ve known someone for many years now. You’ve really seen them cry over a heartbreak, laugh at silly jokes you made, borrow your charger without asking for your permission and even fight with you over a meal etc. You’ve shared secrets, dreams, and maybe even your worst moments together. Now imagine falling in love with that same person as a real life partner.

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🤗Sounds sweet and interesting, right? But wait o is it wise?🤔

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However today, I want to talk about something many people quietly wonder: Can your best friend become your life partner? Or is that a form of mixing two things that should stay separate?

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🧠 My Viewpoint: Can a Best Friend Become a Good Life Partner?

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Honestly, yes—it can surely work. But it’s not always smooth and easy.

For example, let's think of two friends, Victor and Blessing. However both of them have been close since their time in university. Blessing knows Victor has bad habits—how he forgets to wash plates after eating and always leaves his socks everywhere as soon as he got back home etc. In the other hand Victor knows Blessing’s mood swings and how she needs enough space when she’s upset and don't want to talk to anyone at that moment etc.

One day, since they have been so close, chatting and talking everyday ,they realize they feel more than friendship. They start dating. At first, it’s was a beautiful thing. No awkwardness. No pretending. They already know each other by that time.

But then, things changed. Blessing starts expecting romantic gestures like—flowers, dates, sweet words from Victor. Victor in the other way, still in “friendship mode,” doesn’t see the need. “You already know I love you, no point of all that na,” he says. But Blessings wants more than knowing—she wants the real feeling of love.

Truth to be told, Friendship is easy. Love Partner needs more effort.

So yes I must say no doubt,a best friend can surely be a great life partner—but only if both people are ready to switch and increase thier gears and treat each other like lovers, not just pals only.

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🔍 Are Friendship and Life Partnership Different?

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Yes Very different. Friendship is just like wearing slippers at our home it will be very comfortable, soft, no pressure we can easily remove them anytime we want. So in friendship You can be yourself, no makeup, no fancy clothes. You two can just gist, laugh, and go your separate ways and come back to talk to each other anytime you wish.

But life partnership? That's quiet different. That’s Just like wearing shoes to work. You need to wear it everytime not always easy and free to remove it anytime you want. So in Partnership you must always show up for each other, be responsible, and sometimes walk through hard paths together. No snubbing, just there for each other no matter their flaws.

However In friendship, we can simply say, “I’m tired, I’ll call you later when I'm free.” But in partnership, you will say, “I’m tired and I'm not free , but let’s talk because this affects both of us.”

So while friendship is the foundation, partnership is the building. Friendship is to be chill and flex, while Partnership is to be committed and responsible.

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The ⚖️ Pros and Cons of Accepting a Friend as a Life Partner

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✅ The Pros

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• Here you have already trust them, No need to guess their intentions and thoughts.

• You’ve already seen their true self already,no surprises after the marriage.

• You already communicate freely so no fear of judgment when talking or being angry.

• You already share memories together which makes your love story already has it's own chapters.

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❌ The Cons

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• Romantic moments and feelings may be really weak and this might make you feel like roommates or brothers and sisters.

• You may be tired and stop trying , because no available effort or motivation from love to impress or grow.

• Arguments can feel more heavier and frequently, because both people will expect more from each other than a friend.

• Also if it ends badly, you lose both of it which is no friendship, no relationship.

One my friend married her best friend. They were perfect—until they married and started living together as married Partners. Suddenly, the things they used to laugh about as jokes became serious issues. He was too relaxed, she was too emotional in the other way. They don't flirt and flex. They became business partners in marriage, not lovers.

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📝 My Thoughts finally On This

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So here’s my honest and humble advice and opinion: If you’re thinking or me myself thinking about turning our best friend into our life partner, let just don’t just ask, “Do we love each other?” Let's Ask, “Can we grow together in love,honesty and harmony?”

Friendship is a beautiful start of love—but love needs more than comfort . It needs much effort, passion, and a shared point and vision in day to day Lifestyle. If you're lucky enough to have both in one person, hold them tight because it's rare. But if you feel the friendship is strong and the romance is weak, don’t force it ,yes we shouldn't force ourselves on it because that will be a greatest mistake. Some friendships are meant to stay golden—not turn into something that fades overtime.

Whatever we choose, we should include wisdom. Because love is not just about who makes us laugh—it’s about who walks with us when life gets hard till death brings apart.

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I invite:
@solaymann,
@wilmer1988,
@alli001,
to participate.

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Cc:
@sduttaskitchen

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