Incredible India monthly contest of August #1|My own story!

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Title: Life Without Challenges That’s Not Living.

I honestly don’t believe life can be complete without challenges. In fact, I’d say challenges are part of what give life its full meaning. They’re the turning points, the wake-up calls, the reason we stretch, and evolve. Without them we’d just walkthrough life never really understanding what we’re capable of.

If everything came easy how would we measure progress? How would we learn resilience, patience, hard work or even gratitude? It’s the hard seasons that teach us the most valuable lessons, whether we like it or not it does happen

For me, the most significant challenge I’ve faced so far was a moment when everything I thought I knew about myself came crashing down. It wasn’t about money or relationships it was something deeper. It was the day I saw an "F" on my result sheet in a course I thought I had passed.

I can’t even explain the weight of that moment. You know when you give something your best shot, when you read, attend classes, make sacrifices, and still end up with a result that makes you question your intelligence? That’s exactly what happened.

At first, I thought it was a mistake. I kept refreshing the portal couple of times, hoping the grade would change. But it didn’t. It stared me in the face bold, black, and mocking I couldn't say a word neither did I cry I just nodded and said to myself Etoro-abasi you need to face this it is part of the struggle deep inside I was broken but what will I do when I am my own source of comfort

It hit me hard, not just because of the grade, but because of what it did to my confidence. I started doubting myself in every area. If I couldn’t pass this course after all the effort, maybe I wasn’t cut out for this whole academic journey. Maybe I wasn’t as smart as I thought I was. It gave me tension approaching other courses I normally go in with divided minds despite the works I put in sometimes I would say it's a plus or minus race

That’s how the spiral began.

I stopped answering questions in class, even when I knew the answers. I avoided friends because I didn’t want to explain what happened. I even started keeping my phone on silent because I didn’t want to hear people ask, “How was your result?” I practically turned into an emotional drained person

It got so bad that I began thinking of quitting just walking away and starting something else. I didn’t want to keep failing.

But after weeks of depression something inside me refused to let go. I kept hearing a voice in my heart saying, “This isn’t the end of your story. One failure doesn’t define you.” growing up as a kid I wasn't a failure I never failed any of my exams I said to myself that was you it's still you

That’s when the healing started.

First, I accepted the reality I failed. Not because I was stupid, but maybe because I missed something, maybe the method I used to prepare wasn’t the best. Then I spoke to a few people senior colleagues friends I asked questions, swallowed my pride, and opened up to learning.

I began to understand that failure isn’t the opposite of success it’s part of the process. That one "F" didn’t make me any less capable. It was painful, yes, but it gave me the chance to come back stronger.

Eventually, I retook the course, studied smarter, and passed. The joy that came with that victory was unbeaten not just because of the grade, but because I fought through the self-doubt and came out stronger.

And that’s what challenges do. They break you, but they also build you if you allow them.

Now, anytime I face a tough situation, I remember that season. I remember how close I was to giving up. I remind myself that surviving one storm means I can survive the next I fasten up and move towards building

If you’re reading this and going through your own version of pain maybe academic struggles, financial hardship, mental health battles, or family issues I want to share a few things that helped me pull through:

1. Accept the reality, but don’t dwell in it.
   It’s okay to admit things are hard. But don’t pitch your tent in self-pity. Accept it, then start thinking of how to rise above it don't get too comfortable in a situation

2. Ask for help.
   We weren’t made to do life alone. Talk to someone whether it’s a lecturer, a close friend, or a spiritual leader. Sometimes clarity comes from the most unexpected conversations be open to learning hold meaning conversations

3. Re-strategize.
   If something didn’t work, don’t just repeat it blindly. Change your method. Learn from those who’ve succeeded. Improve yourself instead of abandoning the goal completely appreciate others success don't hate on them

4. Take care of your mental health.
   Sleep, eat, take breaks. Don’t let the pressure weigh down your mind. A healthy mind performs better, even under stress be kind to yourself be your own type of person

5. Celebrate small wins.
   Even if it’s just completing a chapter or getting out of bed when you didn’t feel like it celebrate it. Progress is progress, no matter how small. When you celebrate it gives you strength and confidence that you can do better

6. Remind yourself who you are.
   You are not your failures. You are not your current situation. Speak life to yourself even when nothing around you makes sense. Words have power don't talk down on yourself because of a situation

Life isn’t always good and that’s okay. Challenges are part of the package. You don’t grow muscles in comfort you grow them through resistance. So don’t curse the hardship rather use it to grow

I used to think strength meant not crying, not breaking down, not failing. But now I know true strength is falling and rising again. It’s showing up when you don’t feel like it. It’s choosing to try again after defeat sometimes when we cry we feel more relieved

Life without challenges would be a boring, shallow existence. It’s in the pain that purpose is born. It’s in the chaos that we discover who we really are some pains come to teach us lessons and help us make adjustments

So when life throws its punches, take a breath, take a break if you must, but don’t give up. That challenge you're facing might just be the chapter that shapes your testimony don't let giving up be an option pick up your strength there's more to life than pains if only we don't let it weigh us

Keep going. You’re stronger than you think.

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