RE: ๐จ๏ธ NO Structure, NO Sense, NO Rambling, NO Silence, NO Thinking, NO
I'm finding the curation a strange and difficult experience. I suppose it was always difficult to sieve through and find the gem that nobody else has noticed yet but in the past, I knew that it was there - it was just a question of finding it. Either the gems are harder to find now, or they're simply not there.
I've certainly found some good, interactive people that I want to support. There are some new names to me that keep cropping up and I have enjoyed engaging with these new people (without the feeling that they want to take, take, take). I probably focused too much on what I haven't been able to find, rather than what I have.
It's been incredibly hard work raising the boys and at times, this has overshadowed the special moments. With the-4yo, there are definitely more special moments than not at the moment. With the-7yo, his head is seemingly on another planet and no matter what's said to him, he's like an express train that doesn't seem capable of slowing down or changing direction until there's an abrupt crash (causing the inevitable tears and crying for attention). It's almost as though me and the-4yo completely understand each other whereas the-7yo is more like the-mrs-gorilla whose head is always in a different universe and running at a different wavelength to me. Which is quite simply, exhausting!
Well, I've heard that people tend to have affinity with one child's personality more than another. I don't know how that feels because I only have one child, haha... although his dad always told me: "He's just like you, exactly like you." Even so, there are times when I don't understand my son, but sometimes I try to adapt to him, just to share... Children achieve things that no one else can, hehe...๐ ๐
I find it amazing that 2 children, growing up in the same home, with the same parents, with many shared experiences can grow up to be so different. I often wonder what the 7yo would be like if he was an only child. Would he be less attention craving if we didn't need to share our attention with another child? Would we be more patient as we'd have more time to recharge our batteries - being able to take it in turns providing the aforementioned attention? We'll never know.
I find it amazing how they manage to occupy the space that I've just tidied, instantly undoing all of my hard work. They take after their mother in that regard. If there's a clear surface in the house, she'll find something to put on it.
Yes, that chaos happens when they're so young... When my son was little, his doctor told me he was hyperactive, that he had ADHD... He was never calm, always jumping, hopping. He started to calm down after he turned 8... I think it helped that he started playing sports, running, then swimming. Restless children can be very bright.
But the early years can be exhausting... maybe that's normal...
There are certainly traits of ADHD in our eldest too - and possibly dyslexia. Unlike your son, he doesn't express it through jumping, hopping, etc. but more that he always appear to be "busy". Brain off in another world (he calls it Dream World) and always fidgeting, looking around. The only time he seems to concentrate and sit still is when the TV's on.
We're hoping to get him reviewed although that won't make a difference - it might help us as parents to better understand what's going on in his head so that we have some tools to manage it better.
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