Contest: Handling Accusations and Rumours.

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Tell us about your understanding of accusations and false rumours.

These false rumours and accusations are very strong weapons which can either expose the truth or the reputations. An allegation is a statement to the effect that one did something, and it must be proven before that can be held as a truth. Accusations in the absence of any supporting pieces of evidence may become false rumours- unproved stories, which pass hand to hand, one with another and enlarged by each person.

However, it can negatively impact trust, relations, and reputations even when it turns out false later on, since false rumours are so damaging. They usually come out of jealousy, misunderstanding or ill self-will. Thus, it becomes significant not to be too hasty about accusations, do thorough investigation and warn against dissemination of unreliable information. Speaking the truth rather than gossiping will save people the pain of being judged in bad judgment and keep the society peaceful.

Have you been wrongly accused or have people spread false rumours about you before? Or maybe anyone close to you? What was/were your feelings or the person's feelings? Tell us.

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Yes, I have been falsely accused of something, as well as have seen other false rumours being told about me and others. Initially, it was painful and frustrating as it was not right to have it that you were judged due to a feeling that you did not know the truth. It had a disappointing effect particularly when some individuals thought that what they heard was true without bothering to hear my part of the story.

Nevertheless, the situation had other lessons as well, patience and resilience. I learnt that truth does not stay forever and people who know me well would not fall prey to a lie. As such, the emotions are not so lightly weighted now, as I managed to translate the event to the source of strength, learning to acquire skills of going over the negativity and centering on internal calm.

How did you handle the accusations or false rumours?

The allegations and false rumours I took with my calmness and self-control which was not an easy task. I am inclined to defend but somehow I knew that doing so would make the situation more chaotic. I instead decided to calm down and speak less than what is required and allow actions to do the talking. I concentrated on establishing the truth by being consistent, honest and patient.

And I also surrounded myself with everyone who really knew me and encouraged me. The lies died away eventually since the truth is not permanent. Through it, I learnt the essence of silence, maturity and faith during trying moments. So instead of me stooping down to fight rumours, I left integrity and time to clear my name.

Is there any part of rumours or accusations that are positive? Explain.

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Yes, despite the negative dominant issues of rumours, as well as allegations, they may at times take a positive side. They show who has your back and who is ready to believe rumours. To some degree they challenge your character and relations. False allegation will as well motivate you to be stronger, wiser, and careful to the people you believe. It can be inspiration to live in a manner that dispels the rumours, enabling you to demonstrate the rumours are baseless through your behaviour. Having these experiences albeit painful, can develop resiliency, patience, and self-confidence and transform all the negativity into a personal learning experience.

Tell us in detail a better way to handle accusations and false rumours.

It is more advisable to contain an accusation and false rumours by not taking unnecessary actions and being in control. The initial thing to do is to assess the situation now and make sure that you know what people are saying. Rather than backing up unneeded argument, leave your actions and follow-through to demonstrate the real you. When a clarification is required, do not get angry, state facts maturely.

Also associate yourself with supportive people's who normally understand what you value in life and these are the people who can support you. Above all, pay attention to the goals, and do not get distracted by the negativism. Lies tend to be revealed by time and truth carries the day. In making the decisions of patience, wisdom, and integrity, you save your own peace and still enable the other person to see the real you.

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