New school versus old school parenting.

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I think I'm in love already with this topic, it's the reason why I'm hopping on it because I think I have a thing or two to share concerning the subject matter. Let's get right into it friends...smiles.

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There's this saying that goes like this Spare the rod and spoil the child , Do you think is still valid in this new school parenting?

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This particular saying cannot be overemphasized, it's as valid as ever. Let me start by explaining what that statement means in a comprehensive manner. Spare the rod and spoil the child simply means, "withhold discipline and watch the child grow bad".

The rod there is not a literal one, it connotes discipline, correction, chastisement which can be expressed with the use of cane, word of mouth and any other method that is not very harmful.

So going back to our question, I would say, the statement is still valid today. The reason why many of us are responsible and void of many negative social vices today is because this principle was used for us while growing up.

If we had been allowed to grow the way we wanted to, we would have grown without caution and control and everything we do would be deem right in our sight because there was no one to point out how wrong we were neither was the gravity of our action and offences spelt out with the use of the rod

A child who wasn't trained with the rod would most definitely go wayward and irresponsible. We don't need such children in our society, they won't only be a source of pain to the parent, they would also extend it to the society as a whole.

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Do you think Old school parents were too strict compared to new school parenting?

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I wouldn't consider Old School parents to be too strict, if they were, many of us wouldn't have been grateful to God for using such parents to raise us. It is true that we didn't really understand what our parents were doing with us while we were growing up, we thought they were being hostile, insensitive and mean towards us. Little did we know that they were only shaping us into what many of us have become today.

If being "strict" will take foolishness out of a child and to help the child become a responsible fellow in the society then I would subscribe to it and use the same method for my children. Many New generation parents have spared the rod and now the child has grown to become the opposite of what they really wanted him or her to be...all in the name of "I love My boy/girl too much to hurt them".

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We do not really love them if we do not discipline them, I mean if we do not correct and chastise them, when and where necessary. Many of us are grateful today because we were corrected and chastised when we were supposed to. We saw it as a mean and strict treatment back in those days, but trust me, we now know and understand better why we had to go through those disciplinarians called parents.

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which one were you raised ? Do you think you were raised right .

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Old school parents raised me o, my parents ain't Gen Z's or indomie generation, who look up on the internet random clues and tips on how to raise kids..lols. Well, don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to downplay the role of learning and going for knowledge to understand the subject of parenting better but my question is, how effective are some of those things you're learning and who are the people you're learning from.

Someone with a responsible husband might go on the internet and copy the parenting style of someone who is a single mother. Interestingly many of these coaches might hide these fact about them from the public, as a matter of fact, everyone only wants the world to see their thriving part and not the other side.

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So yes! I was raised right and I can say it with my full chest, if I ever deviate from every moral societal standard tomorrow I was raised with, it's because I decided to and not because my parent failed, they actually did a good Job...but far be it from me that I deviate from all the good moral they have raised me with. So help me God! Smiles.

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Do you think we should go back to old school parenting or stick to new school parenting.

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I recommend with my full check that the Genz's and indomie generation parent should learn from the old school parent. Well I know you want to say the world is evolving, there are some things that make life easier now than in their days.

Yes, I do not dispute that but I'm talking about value here and not material substances like pampers that has replaced the use of the good old napkins, baby food that has replaced rich paps and breast milk, baby carries that have lessen the stress of backing a baby...

These technology are all good but that is not what we are talking about here, we are talking about values such as disciplinary measures for children, teaching children the value of diligence and hard work from a very young age, spelling out time for pleasure and house chores, teaching them to respect elders, teaching them the significance of prayer and the list goes on.

Many of the parents we have today have failed in some of these things not even because they weren't taught but because they became too busy and also think the best way to show their children that they love them is by sparring the rod and smiling at their so called silly mistakes and childish acts.

There is a portion in the Holy Bible,in Proverbs 22:15 to be precise. It says "folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away". it means every child has the tendency to act foolishly and irrationally and if not checked, they will grow with it. The rod of discipline which resides with many of the old school parents still remains the cure.

Conclusion

It's actually heartbreaking to mention that only few parents in the recent generations still use the old parenting style. I will also like to commend parents that have been able to perfectly blend the old parenting style with the present day world in a skillful manner and in all wisdom. I celebrate these kinds of parents because they are only trying to bridge the gap between the old and new parenting style.

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So we can't completely throw away the old because we think the times have changed, in my opinion and gentle submission, I would rather stick to the old but discard it excesses and downsides....the ln replace it with what is working in the present day world.

I will like to wrap it up here, I hope you enjoyed the ride. Let me invite my friends @josepha @zory23 @owulama to this beautiful contest. I would like to read their thoughts on the subject matter.

Regards
@lhorgic❤️