RE: Marriage 50/50; Fair or Impossible? - My thoughts / Ehe 50/50; Fair oder unmöglich - meine Gedanken
I wonder how the women's rights movements of the past century, the activists for equality and the pioneers of modern times would feel if they read about the housewife ideology.
I’m here reading this post trying to absorb the new face you gave to this union called “marriage” by questioning long held traditions in marriage and putting the focus on individual choices and negotiations between partners.
But on the contrary, this modern women activists, have done more harm than good in marriage.
Yes, the activists for equality have cleared some barbaric culture that supports patriarchy but What was once a partnership built on complementary roles has often turned into a battlefield of competition. Every now and then, you keep hearing of unnecessary fights in marriage as a result of this competition. As much as love leads in marriage but there should also be a compromise in both parties involved.
No doubt, traditions should not be blindly followed but in trying to fix the problem, we’ve pieces the values in marriage that made it stronger.
I think you'll make a good husband ;-)) Until then, take your time to consider whether traditional role models are really good for a relationship. I don't mean their existence, but the happiness of both partners. Dependence on a breadwinner or a caregiver, depending on the situation, makes people unhappy. On Steem, I've met many working, self-confident women from Nigeria. If you were in a relationship with one of them, would you seriously ask her to give up her job so that you could feel more masculine? I think we both know the answer: you're not as attached to tradition as you think... ;-))
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Even in my Dreams, I would never try that..😂😂😂😂
I grew up seeing both my dad and mum working. When my dad was temporarily laid off from work, my mum was able to sustain my family and since then I saw how helpful it was for Both parents working but I get surprised when I hear some people especially in my country force their wives to resign because they are scared she won’t listen to them again… sounding as if they want to control her
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And that's exactly the point: I'm not against compromises and shared responsibilities. I'm against power imbalances, dependence, vulnerability, restrictions... Women are certainly not better people (in general—exceptions prove the rule ;-))) But they should be accepted by their partners as equals. I see a lot of room for improvement in this area. Everywhere.