Marriage 50/50; Fair or Impossible?

Hello steemians and fellow members of steem4nigeria community. Greetings to everyone. I'm here to share my
views on this topic for this week. I want to thank @ninapenda for organizing this contest. this will give me the opportunity to express all that was kept inside of me concerning this topic. I love this topic. it's very interesting. I just hope you enjoy reading my contribution.

Introduction

Because of the many difference between men and women, it takes tremendous discipline to build and maintain a long-term, loving, and happy relationship.
Perhaps the most important area of mutual compatibility has to do with the discipline of listening. It is only when two people takes time to listen closely and carefully to each other when they speak that the line of communication stay open, and this is when love and harmony continue in the relationship.

Do you believe husbands and wives should share bills, house chores, and responsibilities 50/50? Why or why not?

There's nothing like gender base role in marriage. I have come to the realization that marriage is duties, responsibilities and obligations. For our marriage to be successful we need teamwork and our partner is our immediate teammate. However, I'm not insinuating that marriage should be a 50/50 affairs. The man is always the head of the family. It's pertinent for the wife to submit to the woman wholeheartedly. Right from the stone age marriage was never a 50/50 affairs. I don't think husband and wife should share bills 50/50. A man is a provider right from time. For them to share responsibilities really depends on which or what responsibility it is. Some responsibilities aren't gender role. They are survival skill which should be practiced by both genders. Things like cooking, doing laundry, driving and cleaning is not a genders based role.

In your opinion, does “equal” always mean “fair” in marriage? Explain.

In my honest opinion there's nothing like equal in marriage. In my culture here in Africa it is the man who runs the affairs of the family. He's the one who stands out as the head. He makes decision for the family. However, this doesn't mean that he takes all the decisions without seeking the wife's opinion. So I would say that equal isn't fair in marriage. I know some people in the western world won't agree with me because the practice equality over there. I have seen it among celebrities I. the western world. But it doesn't work like that in my culture.

If one partner earns more money or has a busier job, should the other take on more house chores?

Yes he or she should take up the responsibilities of home management. After all this duties aren't gender based role. Anyone can cook, clean, and do laundry. The busier partner can't just cut himself into two. He or She must focus with what will provides the basic needs for the family.

What are practical ways couples can balance responsibilities without feeling stressed or unfairly treated?

There are so many ways to reduce the stress and duties and responsibilities in the family.

It depends on their difference. If the both parties are working in a paid job then it will be pertinent to get a house help. That is a maid who will help them with the household chores and duties. However, if it doesn't work that way then the couple could sit down and discuss how they want it to be done.

If one person is working and the other isn't working then the one who's not working on a paid job should handle a higher amount of responsibility when it comes to house chores. However the working partner can be helpful during weekends, holidays and days they are off duties.
That's my suggestion. That's my opinion. That's my contribution.

Summary

Every marriage is a "work in progress." As time passes, the nature of the marriage will change, usually in positive and constructive ways.
To keep your relationship happy, harmonious and growing, you must be willing to change in response to changing circumstances, especially having children and watching them grow up.

I like to use this opportunity to invite my friends to participate in the contest.
They are :
@josepha
@julietbella
@destinedhanik and
@etoro

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