Hello Everyone !

I am @hudamalik20 from Pakistan. I hope you all are doing great in your life. Today, I am participating in this "SLC-S24/W4 - Powerful Debate | Deal or No Deal". organized by @ruthjoe in Ladies Universe Community.

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When I was younger, I used to think that men are supposed to handle everything related to money. After all, that’s what I often heard growing up "Mard kamata hai, aurat ghar sambhalti hai" (a man earns, a woman manages the home). It sounded normal. Logical even. But as I grew up, experienced life, and observed the reality of families around me, my entire perspective shifted.

Let me share a story that had a deep impact on my thinking.

There was a girl I knew during my college years. She came from a very modest background. Her father left the family when she and her sisters were still young. Her mother without any proper degree or financial support took on the entire burden of raising her daughters alone. She worked tirelessly as a school teacher and managed to provide them with education, food, and even emotional strength.

Watching her mother struggle every day, this girl became determined to never let any woman in her family live in dependence again. She studied hard, earned scholarships, and finally secured a respectable government job. Financial independence gave her confidence and the power to choose a life partner wisely.

But even after marriage, things weren’t easy.

Her husband, though kind, believed that it was a man's duty to manage all financial responsibilities. He wanted her to stay at home and leave the money matters to him. But she had seen what happens when all the pressure falls on one person.

She knew the pain of sleepless nights, unpaid bills, and a tired face hiding behind a forced smile because that was her mother's life for many years.

So she spoke up not to disrespect, but to explain.

She believed that marriage should be a partnership, not a one sided burden. She offered to support him, to work alongside him, and to build a life together, where no one feels overwhelmed or alone. After some disagreements and many conversations, her husband finally understood her point.

Together, they started managing their home both contributing emotionally, mentally, and financially. The result? A more peaceful, balanced, and respectful relationship.

Putting the entire financial pressure on one person usually the man, not only creates stress, but also leads to misunderstandings, health issues, and often, broken relationships. Life is unpredictable. Jobs can be lost. Emergencies can arrive anytime. Why should only one person carry all the weight?

I believe when both partners contribute whether equally or based on their capacity, it builds unity and understanding. It also helps both partners respect each other more.

So my answer is clear:
No Deal.

It is not ideal for the financial burden of a home to be managed by the husband alone.
We need teamwork, not tradition. We need support, not stress. Only then can a home truly become a place of peace and happiness.

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That's it from today’s blog. I hope you liked it. With best wishes. Now I would like to invite:
@neelofer, @norat and @mile16 to participate in this amazing contest.

Thanks a lot for reading.

Regards: @hudamalik20