@wakeupkitty

I focused more on the mental aspect. It's true that when you're a child or have a condition that prevents you from fending for yourself, others are the ones who cross all the boundaries. It's something you can't control. But the moment you decided it wasn't good for you and left all that weight behind, your level of thinking had changed. You were stronger. Believe me, you could have simply stayed, submitted to any form of fear, terror, or dependence.
At that moment, in the now, you are very strong, you broke many patterns, you did not implement them in your own children, and although there are scars, the new mistakes with all the experience are consequences of your own that you can modify and choose to repeat and move away from or not. Each case is unique, but thinking is the basis of a better life; even the material things we use constantly were consequences of thinking. The more you study, interact, and learn, the more you realize that you have more options. Sometimes you need to move away from something that affects you. We are always born anchored to the expectations of our parents or friends, but the incredible thing is that we can create our own expectations. I understand if you are alone and cannot vent; it is a great burden, but if you talk to someone, you feel that burden lighten, become lighter. Maybe it won't disappear; it's part of who you were and who you are, and I only see progress. You're better than they planned for you to be; you're simply a human being. Feelings flowing. Believe me, there are thousands of ways to remain in the past or not exist, which would lead you to not see with your own eyes that not everything has to be darkness. Children are a great sun.

@emmabritt