You bring up an interesting ethical dilemma, and I realize you didn't bring up government intervention or controls on who gets to have children (that was all me). With no training or testing or certificate of competency, people become parents. Is it irresponsible for some of us to contribute to the gene pool, to send out into the world children we were ill-equipped to raise to adulthood? Again, this isn't you; it's something we see in certain rural areas or inner cities. There are no controls. No warranties. No rebates on a "defective" child. I've heard of children hiring lawyers in order to "divorce" their parents. Some just run away from home. In all the chaos and uncertainty, though, you've been hanging in there and fighting for your family. I hope you're mistaken in that "no one else cares." Wishing you all the joy you can find!