RE: Fear of water
Some always smile because it is in their dna...others are always depressed which is in their dna too.
I am not talking about governments deciding but about me.
One friend of my daughter is blind now, always saw bad and he knew he would be blind because both of his parents had a desease and they knew the risks. He is not happy or grateful could hardly finish his education as a baker and pastry chef... if he would have a good sight or perhaps some he would have had a great job at least as a manager but he was denied. He could no longer travel, see the world, use the internet, ride his bike (better don't ask), work... Might be life would have been differrnt if he was born blind but he waited for doom day, knew it would come soon, still the hit with the hammer had a way harder impact as expected. Perhaps Dutch people are less grateful or more realistic to cover up the bitter, cold reality underneath a blanket of keeping up appearances, pretending ... and we for sure are not grateful to the lord.
I fight because it's my responsibility - and my selfishness - who put them into this world. The only thing I can do. It's a part of some kind of guilt too and no one else cares.
It doesn't mean we never have a good laugh, a good moment, but an.optimistic attitude, fighting doesn't mean either you are happy.
You bring up an interesting ethical dilemma, and I realize you didn't bring up government intervention or controls on who gets to have children (that was all me). With no training or testing or certificate of competency, people become parents. Is it irresponsible for some of us to contribute to the gene pool, to send out into the world children we were ill-equipped to raise to adulthood? Again, this isn't you; it's something we see in certain rural areas or inner cities. There are no controls. No warranties. No rebates on a "defective" child. I've heard of children hiring lawyers in order to "divorce" their parents. Some just run away from home. In all the chaos and uncertainty, though, you've been hanging in there and fighting for your family. I hope you're mistaken in that "no one else cares." Wishing you all the joy you can find!
Do children sue their parents? Will that make their life better? Will they gain better life with it.
I do not believe in so-called lessons on how to be a parent. You learn, know, feel on the way. Not all parents are great but neither are children. Some are real monsters.
I get the point, know you are right, I gave and give my best but still...
I wish you happiness and joy too. 😘💕