Personal tradition/Tradición personal
When we talk about traditions we generally refer to Christmas and New Year's dinners, you see beautifully served tables, good food, you feel happiness in the environment, without a doubt these are times when people share and enjoy much more
Cuando hablamos de tradiciones generalmente nos referimos a las cenas de navidad y año nuevo, se ven mesas bellamente servidas, buena comida, se siente felicidad en el ambiente, sin duda son épocas donde la gente comparte y disfruta mucho más.
I DO NOT celebrate these holidays, in fact I continue working while some of my colleagues go on vacation, I share with my neighbors exchanging gifts but I do NOT feel motivated to celebrate anything else
No celebro estas fiestas; de hecho, sigo trabajando mientras algunos de mis compañeros se van de vacaciones. Comparto con mis vecinos intercambiando regalos, pero no me siento motivado para celebrar nada más.
Some of my relatives have died in December, my grandmother for example died on December 8th, my personal tradition is : At 7 pm I lie down to watch television, it sounds strange but it's what I do.
Algunos familiares han fallecido en diciembre , mi abuela, por ejemplo, falleció el 8 de diciembre. Mi tradición personal es: a las 7 p. m. me acuesto a ver la televisión. Suena extraño, pero es lo que hago.
Year after year I do the same thing, I've gotten used to it, but I love seeing people's happy faces enjoying the festivities, it is definitely a time of happiness.
Año tras año hago lo mismo, me he acostumbrado, pero me encanta ver los rostros felices de las personas disfrutando de las festividades, sin duda, es una época de felicidad.
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Querido amigo, una tradición no es solo navidad, es lo que acostumbras a hacer cada año en una temporada especial, en una fecha fijada.
Es poder celebrar con algún amigo un ritual, o poder ir de compras a determinado lugar por algo que te gusta, es celebrar un año un deporte o un equipo que representa tu región y te agrada. Son esas costumbres que repetimos cada cierto tiempo por que nos agrada celebrarlo.
Lamento mucho que no tengas ninguna costumbre que hacer solo o con amigos, más que acostarte a ver televisión a las 7pm.
Dear friend, a tradition is not only Christmas, it is what you are used to do every year in a special season, on a fixed date.
It is to celebrate a ritual with a friend, or to go shopping at a certain place for something you like, it is to celebrate a sport or a team that represents your region and that you like. It is those customs that we repeat from time to time because we like to celebrate them.
I'm sorry that you don't have any habits to do alone or with friends, other than going to bed to watch TV at 7pm.
(Querido amigo, una tradición no es solo navidad ) Lo sé , pero es en lo que pensé al leer tradición
jajaja, eres increíble.
It is quite understandable that you do not celebrate ,but you are NOT selfish and you enjoy seeing others happy, this speaks highly of your personality.
I don't celebrate, but I let myself be infected by the good energy of people in the month of December.
That is really amazing you can absorb the positive energy.
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I love positive people, I better keep the negative ones away from me... in December everything is joy, I don't celebrate but I like to see people buy, dance, smile, eat what they maybe CAN'T eat during the year, in this month there is a Christmas bonus and people enjoy it since they have better economic possibilities, I love to see happy people
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Sounds as if Christmas is better celebrated than with us. I mainly see lonely, depressed people and like you I try to stay away from negative energy. It's more healthy to surround yourself with positive people.
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Negative people radiate unpleasant feelings and a bad attitude, so it's best to keep them away from me.
With you I don't celebrate Christmas. During my childhood we did but it always started after being scolded and beating ups. There were no happy faces.
I stick to the pyjama day and watching films and not Christmas nonsense, more all those old films I want to see again. These are the only 2 free days I have.
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Life is sometimes cruel to us, but all this helps us to become stronger, now we are the ones who decide what to do, I for example DO NOT forget the good or the bad that is done to me, I DO NOT forgive, I cannot do it because I do not forget
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If you ask me it's not the idea to forget. If we forget we don't learn an important lesson and keep making the same, painful mistakes.
Like you I have a very good memory. I will not forgive on command. It's more that at a certain point lines are crossed and over is over, exit is exit it's that simple.
Who knows it's disinterest?
A great weekend!
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Let's analyze: YOU have a friend, you trust her, then she does something against you so to speak, you tell her, I forgive you, but when she is by your side you do not forget what she does to you, it is NOT possible for you to treat her the same as before,That trust is lost, even YOU will always be on the defensive, guarding every word, then there is NO forgiveness.
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I am afraid I will not say: I forgive you so here's the dilemma.
Something similar happened. I was told to go to hell. You only need to say that to me once. I no longer respond on calls. Later he made his excuse and it was because of his own bad mood.
I only said: ok (but could have said "noted" or "hmmm" 🤔 as well .
There will be no 'I forgive you'. I leave and there is nothing that can bring this broken trust back no mather if it's a close friend, family or a stranger.
I am sure you understand like I understand you.
I can understand your feelings, but as they say time helps us heal. It gently softens the sharp edges of old hurts.
Those memories stick around, but their first sting leaves. New life events and fresh thoughts make the pain lessen.
Time teaches how to carry your past. It doesn't weigh you down anymore. This helps you forget deep sorrow.
You find peace then and lets you move ahead.
Pienso que tienes razón en decir que el tiempo suaviza todo. El dolor no se olvida solo se aprende a vivir con él. Nos enseña a tener experiencia. Aprendemos a encontrar esa paz de la que hablas.
Ojala nuestro amigo se permita vivir un poco, el tiempo pasa, la vida es el presente y como tal es un regalo.
A Esas personas a las que extrañamos, nosotros también las volveremos a ver. Mientras tanto debemos vivir, porque cuando nos llegue el turno así como le llegó a nuestros familiares, nada nos hemos de llevar.
I think you are right in saying that time softens everything. You don't forget pain, you just learn to live with it. It teaches us to have experience. We learn to find that peace you speak of.
I hope our friend allows himself to live a little, time passes, life is the present and as such it is a gift.
Those people we miss, we will also see again. In the meantime we must live, because when our turn comes, just as it came to our relatives, we will take nothing with us.
( El dolor no se olvida solo se aprende a vivir con él) totalmente de acuerdo contigo en relación a lo que dices en esta frase
Thank you so much for your kind words, time helps it's true.
I didn't forget and I cannot say the sharp edges are gone. I could even say that the older you get the more you remember which is true. It is like @gertu say: you give it place and learn to live with it. If you cannot do that it will be hard to get older. Imagine you get Alzheimer's Disease, live in the past and have to relive all that misery again.
It is better to remember the pleasant moments than to remember everything that hurts us; again and again.
Very true, but we cannot wipe out what happened. Some brains remember way more than others, some learn from it, some need reminders because their heart is too good and they will be abused time after time, others are fine with whatever it is .
Remembering doesn't mean you go through the same misery every minute of the day. It's the awareness and reminder what happened. Knowing it did happen and it's not made up.
The worst for victims (a better word is survivors) is to be told they should forgive, should forget or tell them it didn't happen and they made it up.
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I personally believe that it is possible to forgive the one who cruelly hurt us. Because the one who is an evil being does not suffer because he did wrong, it is the victim who bears the suffering. I, myself, can forgive wholeheartedly, but what I cannot erase is what I experienced, who hurt me and what he hurt me. I can never forget that. And much less have the person next to me wanting to justify himself.
I tell you I can say "I forgive you, but stay away from me."