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RE: Personal tradition/Tradición personal
I can understand your feelings, but as they say time helps us heal. It gently softens the sharp edges of old hurts.
Those memories stick around, but their first sting leaves. New life events and fresh thoughts make the pain lessen.
Time teaches how to carry your past. It doesn't weigh you down anymore. This helps you forget deep sorrow.
You find peace then and lets you move ahead.
Pienso que tienes razón en decir que el tiempo suaviza todo. El dolor no se olvida solo se aprende a vivir con él. Nos enseña a tener experiencia. Aprendemos a encontrar esa paz de la que hablas.
Ojala nuestro amigo se permita vivir un poco, el tiempo pasa, la vida es el presente y como tal es un regalo.
A Esas personas a las que extrañamos, nosotros también las volveremos a ver. Mientras tanto debemos vivir, porque cuando nos llegue el turno así como le llegó a nuestros familiares, nada nos hemos de llevar.
I think you are right in saying that time softens everything. You don't forget pain, you just learn to live with it. It teaches us to have experience. We learn to find that peace you speak of.
I hope our friend allows himself to live a little, time passes, life is the present and as such it is a gift.
Those people we miss, we will also see again. In the meantime we must live, because when our turn comes, just as it came to our relatives, we will take nothing with us.
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Thank you so much for your kind words, time helps it's true.
I didn't forget and I cannot say the sharp edges are gone. I could even say that the older you get the more you remember which is true. It is like @gertu say: you give it place and learn to live with it. If you cannot do that it will be hard to get older. Imagine you get Alzheimer's Disease, live in the past and have to relive all that misery again.
It is better to remember the pleasant moments than to remember everything that hurts us; again and again.
Very true, but we cannot wipe out what happened. Some brains remember way more than others, some learn from it, some need reminders because their heart is too good and they will be abused time after time, others are fine with whatever it is .
Remembering doesn't mean you go through the same misery every minute of the day. It's the awareness and reminder what happened. Knowing it did happen and it's not made up.
The worst for victims (a better word is survivors) is to be told they should forgive, should forget or tell them it didn't happen and they made it up.
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I personally believe that it is possible to forgive the one who cruelly hurt us. Because the one who is an evil being does not suffer because he did wrong, it is the victim who bears the suffering. I, myself, can forgive wholeheartedly, but what I cannot erase is what I experienced, who hurt me and what he hurt me. I can never forget that. And much less have the person next to me wanting to justify himself.
I tell you I can say "I forgive you, but stay away from me."