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RE: I Won't Label Her, Lest I Tarnish All Others Who Share That Label
Some mothers make the big mistake of wanting to justify all the bad things their children do, without making the necessary corrections to their behavior. In the long run, this becomes a big problem, and then they ask themselves, “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” When the reality is that when they had the opportunity to do something, they simply didn't do it. A person's personality and behavior are shaped from a young age through good values and teachings. That is the foundation of every good person.
You are so right. The foundation has to be build properly. But if the mother thinks that she's always right and passed that to her progeny, they would stay in a circle where they kept corrupting each other. I watched a Japanese movie based on similar topic where the mother told the son to kill her own parents for money and she insisted she did nothing wrong and raised him well and the son still thinks he did nothing wrong even though he was imprisoned.
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Are you sure this isn't also a culture and religious thing?
I know thar beating the crap out of your children always has been seen as "goid" in the religioys environment I grew up, same for the inhumane way of forcing to eat (spoiled) food and the endkess humilating, scoldings, abusements and it always ended with the Bible phrase:
(that ended as I found the opposite phrases in that "holy" book:
are among them!
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It's not necessarily cultural. Rather, I believe it's a psychological problem that has become a vicious circle, as @enmabritt previously stated.
Children are very easily manipulated, and if we, as parents, whom they trust, do this to them, how can they differentiate between what is right and what is wrong? I don't think it's a question of culture, because it's something that happens in many different places around the world, regardless of origin, language, or religion.
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We can. I am a victim of a very violent childhood. I saw the difference, I was and still am different. I find it totally wrong to blame the childhood/parents for everything. We see others, visit school, have neighbours and the last thing abused and molested children are is blind. They see, feel and hear more. They are observers and smart because they are survivors. Character plays a very big role.
Children are not more or less manipulated than parents, neighbours, politicians and look at all those Steemians.
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How about the Dads?
If you ask me culture and religion also play a huge role in the sick development of a child not to mention the lack of intelligence and self-esteem.
In my opinion, both parents are to blame. The values instilled in a child depend on them. I have always believed and maintained that the best education is that which is provided at home. That is what really defines who you are, and that knowledge is complemented by the teachings we receive outside the home or in educational institutions. If that good foundation that should be laid at home is flawed, it is very difficult, though not impossible, for the person to turn out well.
Well, if you bet on home you are wrong in many cases. Religion does play are huge role (violence + abusement and looking down on girls included).
If it comes to IQ it is lower among certain cultures simply because there's a huge lack of education.
Oh no, frankly not. The best place to instill values in a child is and always will be the home; of course, there will always be exceptions, as not everyone is fortunate enough to grow up in a home filled with respect.
I have never relied on religion to educate a child... No, of course not; a child is not the same as an adult who can submit to the guidelines of a religion of their own accord.