Perspective, Priorities and The Wheel of Life.
“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who do not. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.” ― José N. Harris
Perspective, Priorities and The Wheel of Life.
Life is a curious thing really - and here we all are, on the carousel lol, ever changing and (hopefully)evolving along the way. We never know what is going to happen or how things (and us) will change along the way! But, I suppose that is all a part of what makes it a wonderful adventure!
It’s funny really, how your priorities and perspectives change as you get older. Things that mattered enormously at a different time in your life suddenly become of no consequence whatsoever. I can recall in my much younger years listening to the likes of my parents and other family members such as aunts and uncles have discussions about just this – laughing at the fact that they would not give thank you to be 20 again, or even 30 for that matter. The conversations were always illustrative of their general contentment for where they currently stood in their lives.
I was a lot younger than any of them so I never really understood it. I do now, but I didn’t then. I had different priorities and objectives at that point – none of which matter to me anymore I will add… but I suppose I always just looked at them somewhat perplexed by the fact that they were happy to be, well… OLD! I still wanted to conquer the world and nothing was going to stand in the way of me getting there! Life has a pretty twisted sense of humour and plenty stood in my way, lol! I could probably successfully get away with comparing my life to an endless game of dodge ball if I am honest, haha! In fact – I don’t doubt that there are plenty others out there who would share similar sentiment.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. - Søren Kierkegaard
That forever question which pops up in life has not only a childhood version ”What do you want to do when you grow up” but an adult version too ”where do you see yourself in five years?” comes to mind. I don’t think I was ever able to answer the first – it was just not something that mattered to me as a kid. I suppose I had dreams… I would love to have been a singer – that is one I can remember… but I mean, what little girl doesn’t want to be a famous singer at some point in her life. I know I added many moments of torture to the lives of my brothers with my “Barbie and the Rockers” cassette and even more in later years as I would bellow over my mom’s Jennifer Rush LP… but a singer, I never became… a tragedy really, lol!
Considering the "adult" version – I suppose I had a little more direction by the time I was ever asked that question ”where do you see yourself in five years?” which as we all know, is normally proposed by a potential employer. At that point I had a very definitive answer. He was the boss and I wanted what he had. Well, actually – as I have mentioned previously my answer to him was “in your chair”. No, it did not pan out quite like that – I ended up opening my own business in the same industry – but I guess that counts as the same thing really.
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams
Many years later now and I will say with strong conviction… he can keep that bloody chair, haha! It was a good innings but I don’t want a life like that anymore. My life has changed and so have I. My priorities are different now. In my mom’s last years, I noticed how she simply denied any and all negativity into her immediate sphere (if she could help it)… sometimes to the point of wearing pink shaded blinkers. She would say to me ”Life is too short to fill it with animosity and bitterness Jaynie and one day, when you get to my age you will learn to cherish and appreciate the beauty of the smaller and simpler things in life”. Admittedly, the age at which she began uttering those words to me (because it happened more than a handful of times) I was already at an age and stage in my life where I held appreciation for them – and still do.
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. - George Bernard Shaw
A few days ago, I was having a conversation with someone and we were discussing relationships. The statement of “I don’t have time for that stuff anymore – I am too old” was made in reference for trivial bickering between a couple. Hearing that reminded me of the quote which I shared at the beginning of this post.
It hit the nail on the head! I too, no longer have the time, energy or space in my world for any rubbish and you know what… it feels so good to finally reach such a point - a point where you can actually just walk away from all of it. It IS actually a choice, but it takes most of us a near lifetime to figure that out! In a phrase, it is pretty much like “levelling up” – the human version. I have no interest in entertaining any of it anymore and I know I am better off for it!
Life is a book and there are a thousand pages I have not yet read. - Cassandra Clare
Perhaps I did not conquer the world, or become a famous singer but I conquered my own world – my own road and I did it to the best of my ability, always. I don’t care if certain people don’t like the who I have become – I have enough people in my life that count and do! I am not fazed by politics (of any kind) – because I can’t change any of it, so why would I consciously choose to fill my mind and time with such burdens. I have accepted that my days of sporting bikinis are pretty much done and I will rock that one piece if I have to, because I have nothing to prove to anyone. In short – a whole lot less cares are now given all round for BS that is really of NO consequence in the grand scheme of things!
All I want is to be happy. I want to live my life and revel in the moments that DO actually matter. I want to surround myself with people who are on the same page as me and have discussions with them about how happy I am with the wisdom and where of my life right now and the fact that I am getting – yes… OLD, haha!
The small pleasures often hold the power to transform our day and infuse them with cheerful radiance. - Ramona
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Until next time...
Much Love from Country Bumpkinland, South Africa xxx
Jaynielea
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I think you're still a long way from getting old ;-)) Apart from that, it's a number on your ID card. Some people are already small adults as children and others have retained their inner child into old age. The change that happens to us over the years, regardless of our attitude to life, is a good thing. It is necessary. If nothing changes for me, I'm dead.
That sounds understandable, but it doesn't quite match my idea. I like to be happy - these are euphoric snapshots. But what is much more important to me is contentment. That's more sustainable and more balanced. I tend to build on that in the long term.
Well if you insist :D
Too true!!! My dad is almost 80 and you would never say he is a day older than 50. He is very young in spirit and it is wonderful to see! - Also, a good reminder :)
I never wanted to be anything and if it comes to my children only two out of 5 had a wish to be...
What we all have in common is we hate the question: Where do you see yourself in 5 five years (always asked by school and it's for your own good to fill out what they like to hear.).
As I asked my grandmother why she never remarried she told me her life was good, better, way better than at the time my grandfather was still alive. Why taking care of an old complaining sick man who lives from my income, she said, I have no time for that.
Just like her I have no time. I delete those out of my life who drain my energy and try to kick me down. My road is longer than my children's and I am happy they invest in themselves, ignore how society tries to force them into something they don't want.
I too am happy I am old, less expectations from others, more freedom for me and no way I will go to an elderly's home to be finally be together with the man I was meant to be, like @gertu joked.
I never felt the need to conquer anything. I am a survivor, I am good at it and it's quite a prestation plus what I am proud of. I don't need an award for it just my freedom.
Beautiful sunny photos!
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Aint that the truth!!! I do not believe in the school system at ALL!!!! The word itself says it all!!! SCHOOL.
HAHA cute! It always makes me smile when you hear the words and wisdoms of older people who have already been through the ringer a few times!
Hats off to both you and to your kids! I feel exactly the same way!!! I want my son to be a free thinker, not a sheeple!
I think you did anyway ;)
Thanks :) The surrounds make it easy!
Hope you have a wonderful week sweetie xxx
Hi
It's not about this post... Lol
It's all about context dearie!
You have read me...
And maybe know me a little.
Did you read about the contest?
Doesn't this all seem a little unfair? 😕
I never asked anyone to replace human intelligence with the artificial one? I would never do that!
I will not clarify myself to anyone but you
I wanted to reach out to you 😞
ok - I think I understand what is going on here now. You are commenting here about the comment I made on another post. lol VERY CONFUSING sweetheart.
Nonetheless, We both know it is a contest. Yes, I saw the contest and yes I understood the post, but wakeupkitty took a very creative approach to the topic... as she always does - and even though it was "between the lines" she very clearly was expressing her distaste toward AI in general. This was "HER take" on your contest and I saw that because much of her work has an undertone or two because she is a very intelligent writer.
So I was just responding to that aspect of her post. because I feel the same way she does.
Nobody was saying anything negative to you or to the contest sweetheart! You are worrying too much! We were simply expressing our thoughts on it. That is all :)
Please do not give it another thought :)
No bad vibes here AT ALL!!! Just a conversation about AI :)
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I thought I had replied here.
I always get good vibes from you.
I would never think otherwise.
You comment made me feel at ease.
I didn't read your calculator post. It's only 2 hour old. While I posted it yesterday.
Come on. Why would you think so.
Love and only love
How can I reach out to you??
It was a rant not directed at anyone specific...
No worries lovely. I just wanted to make sure there was no confusion anywhere - or bad feelings. Happy to kick that conversation to the curb and move on... I did see all your other replies, but am, only going to reply here otherwise we are going to be playing ping pong all over the place lol
Come on..
I'm so sad that you thought like this.
Can we chat somewhere else??
I am not anywhere else that has chat functionality lol - except X
@sberryspiced
I will have to sign up.
Anything for you 😉
totally not worth it haha :D
I have no idea who this comment is directed at - or what it is about haha :D can you enlighten me please lol