THE DIARY GAME:Trauma in kids :Part One

Accept warm greetings from Cameroon this cold rainy day.Hope we are all doing great as we keep the hustling spirit alive.Today in my dairy I choose to talk about something which has become a big problem in our society.Why now,why today? This morning while scrolling ony phone watching some movie trailers ,I came across this movie titled Ashabis Child by Bolaji... Its a film which depicts a mother that was raped by her uncle when she was a teenager and even when she tried to talk about it no one believed her.Her uncle took advantage of her being very close to him .Years later,she has her own teanager daughter and when she realizes how fund this child is of her uncle ,this woman gets scared and has a panick attack in which she confronts her brother of trying to do the same thing her uncle did to her.This was TRAUMA taking controle of her.The act of kids being raped these days has become very rampant.neither the boy or girl child is safe.some of these kids are bold enough to speak out and are listened to while some speak and are accused of lieing or they are unable to speak.I have seen and heard of soo many cases of kids being raped

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One should not forget that childhood trauma does not only come from being molested as a kid.nope. There are different forms of trauma such as . Bullying in schools . Constantly being insulted by parents and siblings . Witnessing constant fights between parents . Never being appreciated or encouraged . Sexually harassed or raped

Back in the days our African parents cursed their children without knowing.They traumatized their kids by using hurtful words like.... " You are very stupid' you will amount to nothing in this life" you are a useless child ' and soo many other hurtful words.They body shamed their children.I believe all this was as a result of them being ignorant although that is not an excuse.Today parents still do that.I once had a kid of 5 years old who will never answer a question in class because his mother always said he was as stupid and dull like his father.So,this child had already been condemned.Such a child will grow up believing that he is stupid and a failure.Words like stupid, useless,foolish,ugly,dull and many others should be removed from our vocabulary when dealing with kids.Rather let these kids get use to positive affirmations like . You are intelligent .You can do it .You are beautiful .You are confident .You are intelligent .You are strong .You can do it With such affirmations we will have great kids.Once your child knows that he or she can trust you they will be able to tell you anything.You will be the first they run to when they are body shamed or insulted.they will stand firm when someone tries to talk down on them.They will know when to say NO and when to say YES without being afraid.We will be bringing up great leaders and children who are confident and know what they want.

My dear steem community let us try to do better for we know better.Trauma is real and so many of our kids are going through it.The world is becoming very aggressive so let their homes and parents be their safe heaven.Thank you all.