The Diary Game [14/06/2025] // Traditional Marriage of a Church Member.
Steem greetings, everyone from the motherland, Cameroon, and welcome to my blog as I share my daily lifestyle content with you all. It was a weekend planned to attend the traditional marriage of one of the brothers in church. The brother is a Nigerian born in Cameroon, and the bride is a Cameroonian. It was a blend of both cultures to form the union, and I can imagine, though I do not encourage cross-border marriages because, in most cases I know, the marriage often ends in a fiasco.
During traditional marriage in my community, everyone is supposed to dress in their traditional attire, but that was not the case with this couple. I was surprised they had to inform invitees to dress in white or blue. As a proud grassfield daughter that I am, I decided to wear my traditional attire, which I think was fit for the occasion.
Apparently, in my region of origin function as such starts early during the day so that by nighttime, the function is over and guests return home safely due to the conflict. I was surprised that in my new environment, the marriage ceremony was supposed to start by 4:00 PM, but it started at about 8:00 PM and ended at about 1:00 AM, strange for me.
Earlier today, I had to prepare breakfast for the kids and also wash dirty dresses. Normally, my Saturdays are used for cleaning, washing and cooking. I had no plan to cook, but I had dirty dresses to wash. After feeding my kids, I commenced washing the dirty dresses and cleaning the house. When I was done washing and cleaning, I removed some leftover ekwang from the fridge and microwaved it to feed the kids as lunch. It was less stressful for me as this was one of their favourite traditional delicacy.
Then came the wedding time, and I took a warm bath as the weather was foggy. I was going together with my husband's niece as the bride was her classmate. She was so excited to attend and was also to become my camerawoman. We arrived at the location when a few invitees were around, and from all indications, it shows that the event gonna start late. I was a bit worried as I left home without assigning anyone to feed the kids dinner.
The event has not yet started, and no usher or protocol to direct guests to their various seats as labelled on the canopies. We just had to look around and sit waiting for the event to kick off. It was becoming boring as no one was telling us any reliable time the event would start. Presently, I do not like noisy areas as they affect me negatively; the DJ keeps the loudspeakers on, and it is difficult for me to comprehend. I developed a serious headache, so I had to walk up to him to lower the volume or at least play something calm for the soul. I was happy he gave me a listening ear and lowered the volume.
It was a long, boring evening because the couple did not respect the time, and it was unusual to keep guests without even drinking water, no chewables to at least keep us seated for hours waiting. After several hours of waiting, some people became impatient and had to leave without even seeing the couple. I was seated with a worried mind, thinking about how my kids would cope at home alone with no elderly person to look after them.
I had in mind that immediately, the couple comes out to the crowd, I will leave, at least they will see that I came through to support them, but they failed to respect time. It was around 8:00 PM that the couple were called out to take their seats, and the occasion started. Meanwhile, before they were called out, most of the traditional rites had been done indoors with close family members. It was a joyful moment for the couple as they danced to their seats.
I had to return home because of my kids; I could not attend the marriage till late at night. I informed the couple I was leaving because of the time. They apologise for the late start, but it was not their fault or intention to start late. I returned home, and my kids were happy to see me return on time. I prepared dinner and we ate together. While they were busy watching cartoons, I logged into my steemit account to upvote and also wrote my weekly steem rep report. After the report, I called it a day as I got into the sheet. Until my next diary, guys, enjoy your weekend, and happy Father's Day to all the amazing dads on the steemit ecosystem.
This was so nice of you, traditional marriage seems to be a doctrine in Our Africa setting,but things have changed now that most cultures have changed their patterns, during their own way.
As I see you fully prepared with your native attire, looking fully an African Woman, beautiful and attractive,even more looking like the bride of the day.
You have a good time going to the marriage and in our African culture delays has been an issue in every thing, they will say African Time. As a mother, you really try to stay till that period of time, only to be seen that all righteousness is fulfilled and allso to make your niece feel excited seeing you as a guest in her school maybe marriage. Every Saturday normally,is a jolly day for occasion like this, and marriage is a nice thing, just like the one i attended over here that a Ghananian Man came an have the head of a Nigerian girl in marriage, that's was a good inter marriage activities, but there was good time management. I think in that of own marriage the both families were the cause of the delay martial rides most be looked into before the Main day. But different cultures can be the cause,may be that is the way they used to do it. I really enjoyed your marriage experience. Thank you madam @chant
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Your dressing is so fantastic, what a wonderful day for you, going out in a grand style, but if it was full house guests it will have been more fun, because I no very well baby would have dressed little a little groom.
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Wow, @chant, what a vibrant glimpse into Cameroonian culture and the realities of daily life! I especially appreciate your detailed description of the traditional marriage, contrasting the planned white and blue attire with your own stunning traditional grassfield attire. It's fascinating to hear about the cultural differences in wedding timing between regions, and relatable how you navigated the late start while balancing your responsibilities at home.
Your resourcefulness shines through, from preparing meals for the kids to politely asking the DJ to lower the volume. I admire your dedication to Steemit even after a long day! I hope you find a solution for your phone camera soon - your posts deserve to be showcased with the best quality. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us! What traditional attire do children wear to such events?
The time difference is because of the armed conflict in my region of origin. No activities are done during the night because security is prioritize.
Children also puts on the traditional regalia. Thank you for engaging.
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