The September contest #1 sduttaskitchen| Can a best friend become a good life partner?
When I think about if a best friend can be a life partner, I kind of feel yes, and maybe even more than yes. Friends already know you in ways a stranger don’t. They laugh at the same silly things, they seen the sad days, and they understand the little habits that you don’t even notice about yourself. For me, that sounds like a strong start for love. Sometimes love without friendship feels heavy, but love built on friendship feels light, it grows slowly like a tree. I honestly believe the best relationships in this world carry friendship at the bottom.
But friendship and being partners, they not exactly the same. A friend can walk away for a while, and nothing break. You can go weeks without talking sometimes, but you come back together easy. A partner though, that’s different, you share a house maybe, money, family matters, future dreams, daily worries. You see each other every morning, sometimes even when you don’t want to. In friendship, you don’t think about bills or raising kids. In partnership, you must. That’s why I see them separate, but they can overlap too. The friend is the seed, but the partner is like the whole garden, with weeds and rain and all.
Taking a best friend as a partner can be amazing. One reason is trust, because trust is already there, you don’t need to build from zero. Also comfort, you don’t fake yourself, no masks, no pretend. The memories you shared become a soft pillow to rest on when days are hard. You talk easier, you solve fights quicker, and laughter comes natural. These are big blessings.
Still, not all roses. The risk, it’s real. If the romance goes wrong, the friendship might die too. And losing a friend you loved before is heavy. Expectations change, because what works in a buddy bond don’t always work in a marriage bond. Sometimes people get lazy because they know each other too well, they stop trying. Another problem is emotional weight—fighting with your lover hurts, but fighting with your best friend who is also your lover, it can cut double deep.
In the end, I guess my heart tells me it’s worth trying if the feelings are true. Best friends gives love in a little way, so turning that into a bigger and serious love is very possible and natural. It’s not perfect, it can be very scary, but many beautiful things in life are scary at first.
I invite @promisezella @imohmitch @mrpeng to participate in this contest
Cc,
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