The September contest #1 sduttaskitchen| Can a best friend become a good life partner?
CAN A BEST FRIEND BECOME A LIFE PARTNER? |
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"PATIENCE, you and I have known each other for a while now, we've been together through all the highs and lows of this school, we can even finish each other's sentences, and in the course of our friendship I've found myself developing feelings for you, I don't want us to be best friends anymore, I want us to be more than friends, Bless will you...."
" NO" retorts patience, fighting her eyes shut and praying in her heart that Joe wasn't just about to propose.
Now, before you castigate bless for refusing to be Joe's life partner, let me ask you this, would you marry your bestie?😂. While friendship and love are two of life's greatest gifts, making the world feel less lonely, adding color to our days and reminding us that happiness is often better when shared, what happens when the two worlds collide? Can a bestie actually become a good life partner?
This is a question that has been on the minds of many individuals, been discussed in many girls group chats, and sometimes even within the very hearts of those caught between "friendship" and "love".
Personally, I believe the answer SHOULD be yes—a best friend SHOULD make an excellent life partner, but, it's not always that simple. In fact, if you think about it, Your best friend will always be there when you need them the most, s/he will be there to tolerate your bad moods or even laugh at your arguably "funny" jokes, but becoming life partners with them just adds an entirely new layer of responsibility, which will require sacrifice, commitment and sometimes even facing challenges that ordinary friendship alone cannot withstand.
But on the other hand, Imagine building a lifelong relationship with someone who already knows your guilty pleasures, pet peeves, habits, and dark dirty secrets and yet still chooses you. That’s not just love; it’s love nurtured through friendship and goals.
Then again the rationale for switching from best friends to life partners, depends on if you and your bestie are of the same gender.😂, I don't mean to be homophobic here but, a best friend of the same gender cannot become a life partner in the recognized sense. Friendship can and may remain deep and meaningful, but life partnership?
The one defined as a union for building a home, family, and shared future? That one is usually seen as between opposite genders. So while every best friend is valuable, not every best friend can become a life partner, simply because I can't see myself with my male bestie (no offense intended).
FRIENDSHIP AND LIFE PARTNERSHIP, SIMILAR BUT DIFFERENT, HOW? |
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While it may sound simple to upgrade a friendship into a partnership, the two roles are not identical. Friendship is like enjoying reading this my article together; life partnership is like producing this article together, including the hours, overthinking, writing, proofreading, feeling one self and everything.
Friendship is the comfortable foundation on which life partnerships can be built. But to move from “bestie” to “bae,” both parties must be ready to take on more weight: commitment, shared responsibilities, and yes, the dreaded joint family WhatsApp group.😂😂😂😂😂
PROS OF CHOOSING A BEST FRIEND AS A LIFE PARTNER |
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One of the best advantages of marrying or committing to your best friend is the level of trust. You already know they won’t judge you for eating an entire loaf of bread alone or for crying at animated movie. That trust translates into security in marriage. Another pro is understanding.
Best friends are often mind-readers without the magical powers. They know when you need space, when you need ice cream, and when you need a motivational slap on the cheek and when you need money in your aza. That awareness makes the adjustment into life together easier.
Also, best friends share interests. If you have already built years of shared hobbies, inside jokes, and silly traditions, then life as partners is just an extension of what you already enjoy. Imagine never running out of stories to tell because you’ve already lived half of them together.
CONS OF CHOOSING A BEST FRIEND AS A LIFE PARTNER |
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But let’s be honest—it will not always be a bed of roses. One major risk is losing the friendship if the romance fails. Nobody wants to lose both their partner and their “partner-in-crime” in one heartbreak. Another is over-familiarity. You risk losing the thrill of finding out something new about somebody. I mean, how thrilling is it to be able to tell somebody, "Guess what? I already know your favorite ice cream flavor!" like every single time? Really dude?
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There's also the possibility of biased feelings. What if somebody thinks "love" when the other one still thinks "just friends"? That can lead to heartbreak, cringe-worthy meetings, and perhaps avoiding each other like the plague in social gatherings.
Finally, others might not think that the relationship is serious. The friends and relatives tease, "Oh, so you two finally acknowledged it!" and have no idea that it takes courage as well as a lot of emotional readjustment to move from friendship to partnership.
CONCLUSION |
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So, is a good best friend necessarily a good life partner? Yes—but only with maturity, honesty, and a sense of respect in walking the fine line between ease and commitment. Friendship and partnership are different but not incompatible. If handled well, friendship is an excellent foundation for love; if mismanaged, it will destroy both.
While it is so, one must acknowledge reality: not every best friend can be a life partner. The hurdle is emotional sometimes and sometimes even based on gender, as in the case of when the best friend is of the same gender in cultures where partnership is only man-to-woman. Friendship remains priceless, but partnership carries other expectations.
At the end of the day, love is a gamble on a stranger or a friend. But if you are going to risk your heart, wouldn't it be worth giving it to someone who already knows you're a little clumsy, a little stubborn, and a little wonderfully weird, and still wants you forever? Now that's not just a partner; that's a lifetime best friend.
I invite @pat-enterprise, @okere-blessing and @murse-danie77
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