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Balance and Judgement: Walking the Thin Line

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It’s another thought-provoking contest and as soon as I saw the topic “Balance and Judgement”I paused. You know that moment when something hits home so deeply, you don’t even know where to begin? That was me. Because this topic isn’t just philosophical, it’s real. It’s about life. It’s about me. It’s about all of us.

The world we live in now is crazy fast. Everything is urgent. Everyone is in a hurry. It’s almost as if patience has gone out of style. The more “instant” your results are, the more applause you get. But in this rush, have you noticed how confused we’ve become? We make one decision today and regret it by tomorrow morning. Our minds are full, but our hearts are scattered. We know too much but understand too little. In all honesty, I believe we’re struggling not because we lack the ability to make good decisions, but because we don’t take the time to.

Let’s talk about it.

Why Judgement Needs Balance

Think of judgement like a knife. It can be used to prepare a delicious meal or to harm someone. The knife itself isn’t bad it’s how you use it. Judgement is our mental knife, and balance is the hand that controls it.

We make judgements every single day: what to wear, who to trust, what career to pursue, when to speak, when to stay silent. But here’s the thing many of us don’t make these decisions from a place of stability. We make them when we’re angry, scared, jealous, under pressure, or simply trying to match someone else's pace.

And that’s dangerous.

Because in those moments, our judgement becomes impulsive. It becomes reactive. And we don’t stop to ask the most important question: “What is the long-term effect of this choice?”

Balance steps in to remind us that not every door needs to be walked through just because it’s open. It helps us filter our thoughts, calm our emotions, and think things through.

Let me put it like this: judgement is the decision, balance is the wisdom behind the decision. One without the other is like a bird with one wing. You’ll just keep spinning in circles.

Personal Example: My Big Mistake

Let me get vulnerable with you.

Some time ago, I was dealing with a really difficult person in my life. This individual was pushing all the wrong buttons. I felt disrespected, misunderstood, and drained. One day, I snapped. I said some things I shouldn't have. I cut them off without explanation. In that moment, I felt powerful. I thought I was protecting my peace.

But later, when the emotions settled, I realized my actions came from an imbalanced place. I didn’t think about the impact. I didn’t consider whether a calm conversation could’ve resolved things. My judgement was clouded by emotion, and balance didn’t get a chance to speak.

Looking back, I wish I had taken a breath. I wish I had paused. Because now, I carry the weight of a relationship that ended in silence rather than clarity.

So when I say judgement needs balance, trust me I’ve lived it.

Balance: The Unsung Hero

We don’t talk about balance enough.

Balance isn’t just about being calm or collected. It’s about being centered. It’s that invisible force that keeps us grounded when life tries to throw us off course.

You know those people who always seem so wise? Who always respond, never react? Who know when to speak and when to stay silent? They aren’t better than the rest of us they’ve just mastered the art of balance. They listen more. They observe. They think before they act. That’s not weakness, that’s power.

Balance is what stops us from quitting just because we’re tired. It’s what helps us say no to peer pressure. It’s what reminds us that progress takes time, and not every good thing comes fast.

If judgement is the compass, balance is the steady hand that holds it.

Are They Two Sides of the Same Coin?

Absolutely. And here’s why.

Imagine flipping a coin. One side is judgement the ability to make decisions. The other side is balance the state of mind needed to make the right decisions.

Now take away one side. What do you have? A worthless coin. Useless.

Judgement without balance is chaotic. You’ll make choices too quickly, speak too soon, act without thinking. You’ll burn bridges and later wonder why you're alone.

On the other hand, balance without judgement is fear in disguise. You’ll sit with all your thoughts, weigh all your options, and never act. You’ll be stuck in “analysis paralysis,” always thinking, never doing.

Real wisdom is when judgement and balance walk together. When you can think clearly and act confidently. When you can listen to your emotions but not be controlled by them.

That’s the coin we need in our pockets every day.

The World We Live In: Fast, Loud, and Unbalanced

Let’s not pretend. The world today doesn’t make it easy to stay balanced.

Everywhere you turn, someone is flaunting a flashy lifestyle, “soft life” goals, or quick success. Social media is full of highlight reels, and if you’re not careful, you’ll start to measure your decisions based on someone else’s temporary post.

And what happens? We rush. We panic. We judge situations with blurry eyes. We take advice from people who don’t know our journey. We chase shadows.

All because we’re in a hurry.

But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way: what comes quickly often leaves quickly. Impulsive decisions bring momentary satisfaction, but long-term consequences. We need to slow down. We need to breathe. We need to think.

We need balance.

What Balance Actually Looks Like

Some people think balance is this perfect state where nothing goes wrong. No. That’s a myth.

Balance is messy. It’s not about being calm all the time. It’s about returning to calm after the storm. It’s about choosing to weigh things even when you’re angry. It’s that inner voice that says, “Let’s not rush this.”

It could mean sleeping on a decision instead of acting in the heat of the moment.

It could mean seeking counsel before ending that relationship.

It could mean forgiving, not because they deserve it, but because peace is more important than pride.

Balance is not natural it’s intentional. You have to choose it. Over and over again.

Final Thoughts

So, to wrap this up, here’s what I believe with my whole heart:

Yes, judgement needs the help of balance.

Yes, balance helps us make better, clearer decisions.

Yes, they are two sides of the same coin, and we need both to live wisely.

Life is full of choices. Every day we are called to judge situations, people, opportunities, and even ourselves. But before we act, before we speak, before we cut ties or take leaps we owe it to ourselves to pause. To breathe. To reflect.

That’s what balance offers us. And that’s what makes our judgement not just bold, but wise.

Thank you for reading, Steemians. I hope this resonates with someone out there. Let’s stop chasing speed and start choosing clarity. The world might be fast, but you don’t have to be.

Inviting @pandora @peachyladiva @ukpono