The September contest #1 sduttaskitchen| Can a best friend become a good life partner?

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Do you think a best friend can become a good life partner? Your viewpoint!

If someone asks me this one, I will not rush to answer with just “yes” or “no.” Life does not work like mathematics. To me, yes, a best friend can turn into a better life partner if both people know how to upgrade from the play level to the responsibility level.

A best friend is a person who already knows your weakness, your madness, your ugly side, yet still stands by you. That is not a small thing. If somebody has seen your worst but still calls you “my person,” that is a sign that the ground is strong.

But let us think about it well. A life partner is not a gist partner. A life partner is not only for laughter and enjoyment. It is someone who will stand when sickness comes, when bills choke, when trouble arrives. If both of you can cross that bridge together, then yes, a best friend can become one of the best partners ever.

I always see it like a house matter. Friendship is the foundation, life partnership is the whole building. Can you imagine a house without foundation? If storm blows, it collapses immediately. But if the foundation is strong, even if rain beats hard, the house will still stand.

So my answer is yes, but with small caution: not every best friend should become a life partner. Some friendships are better to remain as friendships.

Do you believe Friendship and becoming life partners are distinct? How?

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Yes, they are very distinct. Even though the two have differences, the demand is not the same at all.

Friendship is like a playground. You are free to ignore your friend if quarrel becomes too much. You gist, laugh, share secrets without any bills disturbing your head. It is a zone of freedom.

Life partnership is a battlefield plus playground. You cannot ignore your partner for one week. Every morning, it is the same person’s face you will see. Every night, it is the same voice you will hear. Add to that bills, children, in-laws, and future plans. It is not an easy thing.

So yes, the two are not the same. Friendship can teach you a lot.
That is why I say, friendship can graduate into partnership, but not everybody can handle the promotion.

Share some pros and cons if one accepts a friend as a life partner!

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Pros

Trust is already there: If it is your best friend, suspicion has little space.
Comfort zone is wide: You are not pretending. You are free to be yourself.
Shared memories are plenty: Your history can hold you strong when things get rough.
Good conversation: You already know how to argue and still settle.
Y’all don’t need to know each other from scratch: You already know likes, dislikes, habits.

Cons

Risk of losing both: If it crashes, friendship plus relationship can die. Are you ready for that kind of risk?
Over-familiarity can kill spark: Romance needs a little mystery. Too much knowledge can turn love to only friendly gist.
Expectation too high: Since it is a best friend, you expect them to act perfect. Any small failure hurts more than normal.
Hard to switch gear: From gist partner to responsibility partner is not easy.
Outside pressure: Some people can laugh and say, “So after all, it is your friend you decided to marry?” Are you ready to face that?

Small Real-Life Story

In my area, one guy married his best friend they had been close with since secondary school. At first, it was sweet. But after six months, the lady complained, “You still treat me like a friend, you don’t treat me like a wife.” The guy replied, “But that is our vibe.” The marriage crashed quickly. The friendship also died.

But I know another woman who married her best friend of ten years. They were already doing everything together. When they married, it was a smooth extension of the friendship. Today they have two children and still behave like playmates. She said, “It is like I married my gist partner and business partner at once.”

So you see, it has two sides like a coin. Your story can be sweet, or it can be bitter.

My Closing Reflection

If you ask me again, I will say yes, a best friend can turn into a life partner, but it is not an automatic ticket. The key is: can both of you handle responsibility, sacrifice, and change?

Think about it well. Are you ready to risk losing both friend and partner if it fails? Are you ready to wake up and see the same face every morning without the option of ignoring? Are you ready to carry bills together, not just gist?

If your answer is yes, then go ahead — you might just win jackpot. If no, maybe the friendship should remain as it is. Because sometimes, losing a friend hurts more.
Lastly, friendship is the seed. If you water it with patience and responsibility, it will bear fruit. If you neglect it, it will wither. The choice is in your hands.

I invite @imohmitch @promisezella @samuelbrilliant to join this contest.

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