Incredible India monthly contest of October #1| Ego vs Self-confidence!

From my perspective, the ego and the self-confidence are two aspects that seem more similar than different when it comes to the expression or experience on the outside, yet they are different significantly at the inside and in what they try to serve and promote for both the individual and the crowd. The ego is the self-importance which requires to more be successful, be seen, and not be out shined. Confidence is a Realistic Assessment of One’s Own Abilities Rather than pitting ourselves against others, confidence is based on a realistic appraisal of our own strengths and weaknesses. The ego is rooted in a fear of weakness, while confidence is rooted in acceptance of both one’s strengths and weaknesses.

They can be distinguished in their motives and responses to certain circumstances. People who do things out of ego generally want to prove something to themselves to sustain their self-worth. They want to be right, great or never losing. Take, for example, criticism: an ego-driven person will be hurt, get offended and try to defend himself without even listening. On the other hand, a confident person will listen to criticism as a tool for introspection and a way to grow, since they do not fear to look imperfect. A confident person doesn't have to get high by taking others down, they justneedto go high.

I do not at all think we should renounce ego in self-development, but we do need to rein it in. The ego can be a compelling fuel if you channel it appropriately, for instance, as a motivating force to achieve or to hold on to your self-worth in tough times. But if ego goes unchecked, it can prevent the heart from becoming teachable and make us reluctant to receive feedback. While self-confidence is a foundation, it is one on which we have to keep building. It enables us to move forward boldly but not arrogantly.

Therefore what you need to practise in self development is not a big ego but a big healthy self confidence. Maturity, openness and compassion for others all derive from our own self-confidence. An unbridled ego, on the other hand, can take root and perpetuate isolation, strife, and dissatisfaction. And in distinguishing the line between these two, we grow into strong willed individuals without compromising our humbleness—because after all a genuinely confident person has nothing to prove to the world.

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