The new link works much better. Hmmm, I tend to think of tragedy or trauma as something that we haven't made peace with. I don't say that as if the goal is to ever "get over" or forget what happened, but when we make peace with something it no longer holds power over us. Personally, I feel like part of escaping victim mentality is to make peace with tragic or traumatic events in our lives. There's no way out of the forest except through the trees.