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RE: Let's Talk Tuesdays : Maintaining Friendships
My friendships are not the kinds that need maintenance , not from my perspective at least. If someone has my friendship they have it, it is not dependent on anything like how often we see each other or talk, text etc.
Life is hard, it gets busy, work, kids, relationships, family and many more things all have a way of taking up lots of our time. I can understand that it can be difficult to have time for yourself, let alone others, so im all good with lengthy periods without seeing mates etc.
If im being honest, I shut down many relationships in my life recently after discovering that my "friends" weren't really my friends (also for some family members). but that was due to their actions not maintenance issues ;)
Those are the best kind of friendships! I feel like that's the realest form. If anything, low maintenance/ friendships that maintain themselves naturally is what I aim for.
Once I had kids, friendships really took a back seat because all I wanted was alone time. Well, reconnecting with old friends wasn't too bad though, but so far I've felt no obligation to keep reconnecting with them after feeling like we're on different paths.
I think it's healthy for our boundaries to shut down friendships/relationships that no longer serve us, so well done! It's definitely not easy for me but I am learning to do the same, drifting away from the role of 'people pleaser'
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all we can do is the best we can with the tools we have available to us :) it may take us a while to realize what is good and bad for us but once we do.... it up to us to draw the lines in the sand of what we take from others and what we dont.
its a harsh world out there, there is nothing wrong with taking care of ourselves at the expense of others "feelings" about us, self care is far more important than pleasing others... in my humble opinion ;) much love