RE: My Gender Identity Crisis, Or Lack Thereof
Sort of off topic, but I really hate feminism for trying to make boys - girls interchangeable. i.e. Gender equality.
Everyone knows that men are stronger than women (but feminists will argue this)
Unfortunately, many people do not know the strengths of a woman. (they aren't told that woman can wipe the floor in the emotional manipulation arena)
So, it is rammed down people's throats that men and women are equal, and thus it is easy to make the mistake that men and women think the same.
(sorry, that was a long ass intro... just to talk of a subject)
Men and women think differently.
Men and women love differently.
Men and women have a different set of core values.
(such as, women are afraid much of the time, while men are not)
(men are often out of touch with their emotions, while women are bathed in emotions constantly)
(women like to talk, men like to do)
So, if we actually talked about the differences in how men and women think and experience reality, then it would be far easier to understand your gender and where you actually fall into the spectrum.
There are women with male brains and men with female brains.
And this doesn't have much correlation with which sex you are attracted to.
I am just shocked that we are "supposed to be" open to LGBTQ, and at the same time we are supposed to be closed to anything actually involving the sexes.
In away I definitely see you where you are coming from. For feminism is strictly stating that men and women are completely equal and are on the same playing field when it comes to the way our bodies work and the way our emotions run, then you have a very valid point in my personal scenario. Feminism is then negating at the fact that I am even on a gender Spectrum and that really it is normal for me to act and think the way that I am. Also pointing out that every woman is doing the same exact thing.
But are they?
I haven't really put a lot of thought into feminism and how it plays a role in gender identity and sexual orientation. I put feminism in a completely separate and different box, more on women's rights for equality and basic civil rights of being treated the same as a man equally in our society. You cannot deny that fact, that women are treated completely different than men in our society as a whole. Women are disrespected and thought of a lower grade of a person. There's no way to get around that, unless you're in denial. I don't want to turn this post into that topic though, but it is a great stepping stone for a possible new writing that I could dive into. I just don't know if I want to go down that road. There seems to be a lot of egg shell dodging in that matter.
Yes, egg shell dodging. You saw how much I fumbled in my opening statement.
It is quite shocking how estrogen / testosterone completely changes the person's view point.
Like, in males the facts are more important, in females the conversational tone is more important.
I would love to see it explored... but everyone I know who does gets cut down hard by the feminist community. Enjoy
I don't think anyone would deny that
This is what many of us would argue. I too thought women were mistreated over men until I walked those shoes and experienced the horror in how men are really treated.
@builderofcastles, at least you recognize it is off topic. I wish people didn't think of feminism every time someone is exploring/questioning their gender, I think looking into feminism would confuse them.
I was being objective at first while reading at your story until you started quoting someone that was using facts and manipulating them to make it seem like men have it worse.
You sided with someone who used the term SNOWFLAKE like it is a derogatory word. Thus, he lost all credibility with me. Each and every person on this Earth has the right to individuality, and I am a snowflake. And proud of it. And proud of everybody else you steps out of their house brave enough to be a snowflake just like I am. You should take direct offense to that based on your own personal life.
I really don't like that we're going down the road of talking about feminism when this story and my life account has absolutely nothing to do with it. Everybody's personal journey is going to be different and they're going to experience it differently. That's the great thing about being a snowflake.
Not sure you're talking about me but...Don't have time to argue every single word with every single person, how people choose to express themselves. At least in my case I've already spoken plenty about how we should be careful with the words we choose to use, don't have to repeat and repeat to have credibility. And in the case of @builderofcastles from really reading his stuff I know he tries very hard not to offend anyone, he's one of the most civilized users around here in my opinion :p