Why is it that we fall into these traps? I have seen it over and over. There whirlpools of toxicity that only reinforce themselves. I see it so often where the participants don’t even know they are party to these destructive behaviors, be it as the victim or the abuser. It seems even more systemic today where the roles for each party involved play roles as both victim and abuser. Like this weird and destructive give and take. Neither side willing give an inch on something and then have zero comprehension on when to put the brakes on other things.

I don’t know if any of that made sense.