RE: Significant others: Why you should focus on finding your tribe, rather than the one
I agree that friends are really important, but I think their role drastically changes as we get older. My old tribe from when I was under 20 are distant figures, not because we had fallings out, but because of life changes. A big one is children - you can't drop what you are doing anymore. Physical distance is another. And as we age our likes and opinions do drive us apart to a degree. We meet new friends, and some of them will be very close, but we will not be like teenaged best friends because we have adult lives. Spouses and children take presidence.
I have had divorced friends tell me how they met a whole new tribe of people in the same boat, then it all changes once finding a partner again. All of it depending on what phase of life and their single/married status, because a real marriage is a bond with a best friend. So in that sense life is all about friendship.
I will be curious to see how this all changes once children are grown and the next stage of life begins.
I agree so much :) I do think people change and drift apart and you know, others drift into your life and so on. I think it's fascinating to see how that happens, but also a bit sad. It's interesting to see how people talk from different points of view and different points in life (duh) :D
Yeah, I imagine kids change the dynamic of a social circle a lot. And of course, there are other changes, as you said, relationship status, also jobs, political views or other things you care strongly about etc. Oh well, I still think it's important to find good friends. Even if they're not forever...:)
Thank you for your comment, as always!
It certainly is still important, and you seem like the true-heart type that will hang on to at least one of those original friends. I can see you at age ninety, doing a photoshoot with that friend using whatever modern contraption exists then :)