I pretty much agree with you @bigskykilroy.

The mantra I grew up with was "Choices have consequences." And there was no "farming out" those consequences by trying to blame someone else, or the weather, or the dog ate my homework. I "made my bed" and was expected to sleep in it... at the same time, there was also a lot of freedom there, in that I was invited to experience different results, not constantly micromanaged in my activities.