"In Motherhood, You Lose Yourself… Only to Find Someone Stronger"
Motherhood is not just about diapers, sleepless nights, or drawings on the walls. It’s much more than that. It is a silent, deep, and sometimes lonely transformation that no one fully explains to you. Being a mother is about giving up parts of yourself: your time, your body, your space, your peace... and still feeling like it’s not enough. Because sometimes, it seems like nothing will ever be enough, even when you give everything with love.
What is rarely said out loud is how hard it can be. No one talks about how your identity changes, how one day you look in the mirror and no longer recognize the woman reflected back at you. Your body is not the same, your time is no longer yours, and the routines that once defined you vanish between bottles, scattered toys, and endless laundry. Silence, once unnoticed, now feels like a luxury, something you long for.
And when you finally get a few minutes alone, guilt shows up. The guilt that makes you feel bad for wanting a break, as if taking a moment for yourself were selfish. As if thinking about your well-being meant you loved your children any less. But it doesn’t. Needing a break doesn’t make you less of a mother; it makes you human.
However, amid all that chaos, something incredible is born: a new version of you. A version you didn’t know existed. A stronger, more sensitive, more intuitive woman. A woman who, even in exhaustion, pain, or fear, finds ways to keep going. Because the love for your child is so deep that it pulls strength from within you that you didn’t know you had. You learn to get up without sleep, to smile while feeling drained, to nurture even when you yourself need care.
Being a mom means loving with fear, with doubts, with fatigue, and with tenderness. It means crying in silence while holding everything together. Smiling when you feel broken inside. Moving forward when you feel like you can’t anymore. Because that little person who calls you "mom" depends on you. You are their home, their comfort, their everything.
Motherhood doesn’t make you perfect. It makes you real. It confronts you with both your shadows and your light. It pushes you to your limits but also shows you that you can go beyond them. It teaches you to surrender when needed, but also to resist when things feel impossible. It’s a journey that transforms your body, your mind, and your soul.
And yes, many times, you lose yourself a little. You get lost in repetitive routines, endless tasks, and responsibilities that never seem to end. But you also find yourself again different. More aware. Deeper. More human. You discover beauty in the imperfect, in the chaos, in the everyday. You learn that you don’t need to have everything under control to be a good mother. That making mistakes also teaches. That being vulnerable doesn’t make you weak; it connects you to other women going through the same.
Motherhood is not a straight road. There are good days, gray days, dark days, and days full of light. There are moments of doubt, fear, and frustration, but also pure love, unexpected tenderness, and deep connection. Like that spontaneous laugh, that hug for no reason, that look that says everything without words. Moments that remind you why everything else is worth it.
Today, I write this for you, mom, the one who sometimes feels invisible, tired, or not enough. To remind you that you’re doing a great job. That your love and your effort matter, even when no one sees them. That you are not alone. That it’s okay to feel, to cry, to doubt, and also to laugh out loud. That it’s okay to take a break. That being yourself, with everything that means, is more than enough.
💬 Did you also feel like you lost a part of yourself when you became a mom?
I’d love to hear your story or thoughts. Because sharing is also healing. And together, we remind each other that we’re still here… blooming. 🌷