Its great that you two were able to find common ground. Thing is some of the things in your comments were quite insightful.
There is another thing about the meaning of words. Thing is some shades of meaning change when you move from culture to culture, since those cultures were shaped by their individual cirumstance.
Here in Russia for example the word Racist is mostly understood the way you put it in your comments.
There is a lot of it happening too, because a lot of discrimination is actually against majority here (and Russia is definitely a multi cultural and multi ethnic country). Is it racism? Or what? By which definition?
It is based on how the USSR was set up economically. Usually the money flows from the colonies to the metropoly, right? In case of USSR it happened the other way around. Ethnic culture was supported and finances were pumped into the peripheral republics. Nothing wrong with that, it is just how it was. And during the breakup of USSR there was even systematic genocide of the Russian population in the new states. In baltic ex-USSR stated they are faced with systematic discrimination even today, aas 2nd class citizens.

And I am sure if one goes around the globe they'll see, that depending on where they are different words have different meanings.