RE: Like a Nasty Rash: The Self-Imposed Prison of Societal Pressure, Worry, and Perfectionism (more thoughts on parenting)
@kafkanarchy84 -It is not always possible to totally be rid of worries. Finally, humans have evolved into a species that starts making provisions for future and have developed a tendency to worry as part of that process. However, you bring forth a very important point on how much we should worry and how much of what we worry about is really under our control. I guess we need to analyze and get comfortable with taking action on what is under our control and not worry about things out of our control. Such behavior though, may be only possible when we develop a confidence that we can deal effectively with situations without a lot of premeditation. If we, as parents display this confidence and replace worrying with analysis and planning for action on things under our control, the kids will automatically follow the same path. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this aspect. Wish you a great day. Cheers.
A lot of what we file under worrying is habitual and automatic, based on the underlying beliefs we hold. Change those beliefs and a whole slew of things we worry about evaporate.
Also, the most important element of worrying is this: it is a use of the imagination and we worry to the extent that we feel the importance of things outside of us and our own lack of control about them. The more we build a self-image as creators, instead of as reactionaries (or even victims), the more worrying can become positive imagining.
The simple fact is that we will never be able to cease thinking about the future. What we can absolutely choose is how we think about it.
Well said. All about finding a healthy way to deal with things.