Oh I think that everything you say so true, without a doubt I have felt very identified with your post. Many times we swallow our thoughts, feelings and ideas and we are forced to shut up when what we most want is to raise our voices. We usually stay with that bitter aftertaste and that discomfort of not having said what we felt and thought.
Saying what one feels is much more important than it seems, and is that the first reason to say what one feels is that it will make us feel good, that feeling of freedom will go through our body. This sense of well-being is especially evident when we speak from the deepest part of our being, with respect, love and affection.
I believe that if we are able to overcome those fears and to say what we feel we will be showing ourselves just as we are. By hiding our thoughts or feelings we are hiding ourselves, we create a barrier with the rest of the world that is very difficult to break. However, by opening the door and letting out the feelings we can enjoy much more of them, but also the gestures and reactions of those around us, those people to whom we have spoken. If we don't, the rest will have a blurred image of us.
In short, I believe that assertiveness with oneself is the key to saying what one feels. It is the only way we have to express our authentic desires and feelings, and the first step is to be clear when we express ourselves!
By the way, if it's not too much trouble I wanted to invite you to read my posts. I would greatly appreciate if you take the time to read them, and in case you like them, I would appreciate it if you would give me a vote, a comment, or a resteem.
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Thank you for your comment @mjzo! :)
It is often I feel I can't break my own barriers to say what I really would want to say and the same way for people to get across those barriers takes a lot of effort. Mostly people are not interested enough to do so unfortunately. Hence, why I often feel disconnected by my own doing, by my own cage I've created for myself and can't break free. It is also work in progress and well I am aware of the issue. Luckily I now have willingness to try again :)
There are many people who find it difficult to express what they think, but they are more difficult to express what they feel. Culture and education have an important weight in this issue.
Expressing feelings is learned in childhood: that's why children who have grown up in homes where parents did not show affection, where the father never recognized being proud, where the mother kept silent when she felt lonely or depressed or where children had to contain their anger, today they are adults with serious problems to make known what they feel.
One of the reasons why we do not express what we feel is to avoid conflicts. Some believe that this way he avoids hurting another person, and he does not realize that the damage is done when he represses himself. Another reason may be the fear of feeling rejected or believing that they will not understand you. This is solved by improving self-esteem and communicating assertively.
Expressing what we like, what makes us afraid, saying things that generate joy, those we perceive with disgust, express our gratitude or show apologies is what helps us to release and share our feelings, and is the best way to feel good
Suppressing feelings can make you sick. In fact, people who constantly repress what they feel, whether by shame, by shyness or fear, they end up sick. There are some diseases directly related to the inability to express emotions and feelings: stomach pains, ulcers, heart attacks , hypertension and irritable bowel syndrome are some examples.