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RE: Opposites Attract: A Romantic Reality or Just a Romantic Idea?
The concept of twin souls is very crazy because to people acting the same way is boring.
There are no opposite personalities but complementary like a Sadic will always find a good Masoch to play with.:)
The kind of persona that is born between two people engaging results in a interexperience of each other, that's what matter in a relationship.
There are degrees of similarity and difference. No one is exactly the same ;) Having similar qualities is beneficial for bonding on the same page/level ;)
I prefer the big abyss of polarized differences because of the interrelation(the real only person of a relationship), can create more energy flows between people. It's a risk factor but if both people have a strong ontological(self) security to keep both personalities intact there is a richer relationship.
But in the eye of an observer is a waste of time discussing the qualities of each partner that we can't see, so I stick to watching the resulting interrelated persona, that is observable.
If you want to change a relationship, never try to change any qualities of the peers, but try to see and discuss what's wrong in the middle, otherwise you will finish playing the Guilt game of the jewish-christian(or puritane) culture and the relation is already lost.
i agree with you....
Come to think of it. It's not really boring having someone that thinks like you. Imagine your partner thinking like you, liking what you like, doing what you do, behaving like you. I think it eliminates quarrels and arguements because you guys tend to agree on a matter easily. All the same I still prefer a complementing partner.
i dont really agree total with your opening statements.you see if we were so comfortable with ourselves we wouldnt need companionship in the firat place.companionship is born out of the want for a complement we cant give ourselves.similarities will just make it easier for you to access the comolement! both are so important!