How to be more resilient when things get tough

It is part of human nature to resist change, particularly when it is an adversity or a challenge. But change is inevitable, and building resilience skills will help us not only to survive change, but also learn, grow and thrive in it.

Resilience is the ability to cope with stress and adversity. It comes from believing in yourself and, at the same time, believing in something much bigger than you.

Resilience is not a skill with which one is born; it involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone.

Here are 10 ways to build your resilience so you're prepared when you need it most.

1. Don't try to solve problems with the same thinking they were created with.
Resilient people don't make the same mistake over and over again. They are willing to be honest about why they failed and take the time to think about what didn't work.

2. Dominate your emotions before they dominate you.
Resilient people have a positive attitude. They constantly remind themselves that much of what they are facing is temporary, and that they have overcome setbacks before and can do it again. Resilient people focus on what they can learn from that experience.

3. Stay strong
Resilient people face their fears and have an adaptive attitude that lets them focus on possibilities even when things go wrong. The harder the situation gets, the stronger they get.

4. Don't stop
Life does not become easier or more forgiving; we become stronger and more resilient. Resilient people are constantly becoming stronger and braver. They know that life is not what happens to us, but what happens within us.

5. Stay prepared
Resilient people work on solving a problem rather than being paralyzed by negativity. They are still planned for the future even when things are working out.

6. Get up, as many times as necessary.
Resilient people understand that failure is not falling but refusing to rise. They have the ability to adapt successfully and the tenacity to never give up.

7. Reward small victories
Resilient people believe in themselves. They work hard and rejoice in the small victories that give them strength.

8. He's still generous
Even in the most difficult times, resilient people find a way to care about others, because sometimes being selfless is the best way to discover your own strength.

9. Build relationships
Resilient people maintain strong and supportive relationships, both personal and professional. As a result, they surround themselves with caring and supportive people in times of crisis.

10. Create your own meaning
Resilient people seek meaning. They develop a "why-personnel" that helps them to have a goal, which helps them see the setbacks from a broader perspective.

Resilience is needed to overcome difficult times. We need to pay attention to the complexities of our own experiences, listen to our emotions, and be willing to learn as much from disappointments and failure as from successes and motivation.