RE: Steem Debate (Get Paid For Your Opinion) Round #12 Results And Round #13 Topic
Against
The success of a marriage is not dependent on how long both partners dated but their willingness to learn and unlearn and do everything within their power to make the marriage work.
How long you date a person will not really translate to how well you will know him/her because most people pretend a lot in a relationship.
You can know a lot about a person by simply asking the right questions and by observing their actions and inactions. So the length of dating shouldn't be a determining factor in marriage.
When love and understanding is present in the relationship and the partners have a strong determination to make the marriage work, regardless of the length of the dating, the marriage will work.
Our fathers and fore fathers never dated, but they had more lasting and blissful marriage compared to this present day where couples dates for long before marriage.
The divorce rate in this present day is extremely higher when compared to the divorce rate in the days of our fathers and grand fathers. All these are proofs that the length of dating has very negligible effects in the success of a marriage.
Regardless of how long you date a person, it is only what they want to know about them that they will reveal to you unless you're able to ask the righ questions and observe their actions.
Most long dating relationships turn into a routine after a while because both partners do the same things and repeat the same actions.
The qualities that make marriage work don't take long to be discovered in a partner.
Some people can date for years and live peacefully because they are both hiding their flaws from each other, but the moment they get married, they start seeing who each of them truly are and the marriage will hit the rock.
It's only in marriage that you can actually know who a person is because that is the time that they're likely going to let down their facades and reveal their true selves to you.
So the length of dating play no part in the success of a marriage. If the love and connection is mutual and the two partners can risk sacrificing and compromising for each other, the marriage will certainly work out fine. i rest my case.