Few Days Before my Marriage

A few months into marriage, I was homesick. I looked at my husband; it seemed nothing disturbed him, after all...he was still living where he's always stayed comfortably all along. He was eating his favorite dishes, seeing his friends... In fact, he lived his normal life. But there I was... missing my home, missing my community... the late nights of family jesting and laughter, my friends, my congregation, and it turned out my favorite food was what hubby abhorred... ha!

So, what do men really sacrifice or adjust to in marriage? I pondered within myself. Did I even talk about the whole new wife's duties and chores...I mean double of what I used to do...I have my work as well to attain in an entirely new vicinity...where do I start from…and then hubby is just to continue doing his work... It's funny, right? But the list is endless... That's where I understood that there's love and there's reality. But then reality hits harder...while love is...is what 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says it is.

So, one day...I brought it up as a debate...trust me, after bashing and bashing and bashing my opponent as I had it abundantly in my heart... I noticed he wasn't saying anything but just listening... there it is... of course it's obvious we sacrifice a whole lot... I said happily. Hubby smiled and called me by my name...that demands seriousness.

He asked, "Did you notice I've been pulling the blanket over you almost every minute throughout each night? Do you know why? ... I said no. It's because I've not been able to sleep ever since I started sharing my bed with you. Each time I turn and feel someone's presence beside me...it's strange; I can't sleep. Remember...I've been sleeping alone almost all my life.... Well, I felt for him shaa...but...

Ladies and gentlemen...that was his own sacrifice, and he adapted real quick. But here I am being welcomed into another phase called "MOTHERHOOD," while I'm not done adapting to the ones I mentioned earlier. In all, love is a beautiful thing, and I love love so much, but what is love without sacrifice? ...

I'll still stand my ground to say that women sacrifice and have a lot to adapt and adjust to in marriage ... So, dear men,You, yes, you, son of man ... What stops you from sacrificing that one request she's ever asked from you? It's not about...a woman can never make me change my decision, or I can't be led by a woman...it's simply giving back just a tip of what she's given you...it's called "SACRIFICE."

So husband, always respect your wife because it's not easy to leave your family and your friends at school and adapt to a new environment and stay with one man for your whole life. On the whole, I always appreciate love, because love is a beautiful life from God. still hoping that one day I will adapt to all these changes and become a better person, a better wife, and a good mother and also encourage a new one into the fold called marriage.